Being comfortable during sex is essential. How can you enjoy sex if you're not feeling like yourself? It has nothing to do with being boring or vanilla, it's about being relaxed and content in the bedroom, which is going to make the sex way better, whatever kind of sex you and your partner want to have. And part of being comfortable comes down to you and your partner's relationship. "What people do not realize is that most sexual incompatibility problems are a part of broader compatibility issues," relationship coach and founder of Maze of Love, Chris Armstrong, tells Bustle. So part of feeling comfortable is just learning how to be more at ease with your partner generally. But some of it will be about the actual sex you're having as well.
The good news is that there are a lot of different ways you and your partner can become more comfortable with one another, which will translate to better sex and a better overall experience, in addition to boosting your relationship. So, if you're feeling like you're not quite connecting during sex, don't write off the relationship just yet — instead, focus on what you can do to make you both feel more at ease and the sexual comfortability will improve in no time.