Maybe you've had the conversation with your partner or maybe you're just thinking about expanding your sexual horizons. Either way, something prompted you to wonder, How do I prepare for anal sex? And so here you are! Let's clear something important up first: while anal sex isn't the go-to for every couple, there's absolutely nothing wrong or taboo about it. You just need to make sure you're doing it carefully and comfortable, especially if it's your first time.
It's natural that some folks feel a little shy discussing this at first, but there's nothing to be embarrassed or self-conscious about — in fact, there are lots of amazing tips out there for beginners and experienced people alike. To shed a little light on the matter, I got in touch with Rosara Torrisi, Ph.D., a certified sex therapist and founder of the Long Island Institute of Sex Therapy (LIIST) in New York.
"There can be many benefits to a relationship when trying anal sex," says Dr. Torrisi. "As most people have anuses, anal sex can be an equal opportunity pleasure zone... There's also the possibility that trying out something new in the bedroom could generate a renewed feeling of closeness in your relationship."
That said, Dr. Torrisi notes that it's important to have a conversation with your partner before trying anal for the first time. "Partners must feel that they have a good ability to communicate their desires and boundaries," says Dr. Torrisi. "Conversations about safety should also be included. Also, be prepared for some possible giggles and embarrassment."
Finally, once you've got all that squared away, it's time to stock up on the best tools for anal preparation to get yourself started. Here are a few of Dr. Torrisi's top recommendations.