When we are young, we look at our mothers as if they could do no wrong. But as we get older, we realize parents have to be discerning too, and you may start to notice their flaws. There are a number of things your mom should never do, even though she is your mother, as her actions can have some powerful effects on your wellbeing. It's hard to take a step back and realize that the person who raised you might be doing something you don't agree with, but recognizing what is okay and what isn't can help you maintain a healthy relationship with your mom.
"It's always healthy to set some boundaries with your mom," says Nicole Zangara, LCSW over email. "Many times, when we become adults, our relationship with our mom changes from parent to friend. For a healthy mother-daughter relationship, that is fine. For a dysfunctional, toxic, or unhealthy mother-daughter relationship, that can lead to unhealthy boundaries or even no boundaries. To keep a stable, healthy relationship with your mom, the goal is to have boundaries set up for both of you to feel comfortable."
Every relationship is different, but there are some common habits that every mother should avoid. Here are nine things your mom should never do, no matter what.