How Can You Improve Your Empathy? 3 Science-Backed Techniques To Help You Feel More In Tune With Those Around You

Andrew Zaeh for Bustle

Few people would disagree that empathy is a good thing to have. But for some people, the ability to "feel" or share in the emotions of others, and understand them as if you were experiencing them yourself, doesn't come naturally. And while it's been suggested that this feeling is what makes us "truly human," it's OK if you want to improve your empathy. Empathy is not only useful as a human emotion in and of itself; it can also help us become better listeners, managers, partners, and even increase our happiness as a result. What's most interesting, though, is the emerging theory that empathy can in fact be learned. It's not static; you can actually make yourself more empathic.

How empathic are you to begin with? There are a variety of tests available to assess how much you identify with others, but one of the most popular is the Empathy Quotient or EQ, which was developed in 2004 and consists of 60 questions you have to rate, such as, "I can tell if someone is masking their true emotion." Being too highly empathic can also have its difficulties; for one, it makes it nearly impossible to watch movies based on cringe humor, but for another, it can mean that your own emotions become clouded by what other people are thinking and feeling. If you'd like to increase your empathy a bit, though, science has some ways to help out.