How To Help Your Partner Overcome Their Insecurities In Bed, According To Experts


As great as sex can be, it can also have a way of bringing out your insecurities. Everyone has their sexual hang-ups or things that prevent them from being in the moment and enjoying sex with their partner. If your partner's insecurities are getting in the way, there are some things you can do to help your partner overcome their insecurities in bed.

"We often develop sexual hang-ups, insecurities, and shame as a result of internalized myths and expectations about what our bodies should look like, how we should behave, and what we learned as children and young adults," Candice Smith, head sex and intimacy coach at Two to Tango, tells Bustle. "We also can develop sexual hang-ups as a result of rejection or past embarrassments."

According to Smith, some of the most common sexual insecurities people have include talking to their partner about what they like in bed, body image issues, smells, orgasm frequency, fantasies, and mismatched libidos.

"Often these insecurities overlap and affect enjoyment of multiple parts of the sexual experience," Smith says. "Overcoming it requires a combination of self-understanding, self-love, and willingness to communicate with your partner."

If you notice that your partner is struggling with their insecurities, there are some things you can do to help them overcome it.