Trying to find "The One" on a dating app can take some serious time and effort. How much time, you ask? It might surprise you to find out that millennials spend 10 hours a week on dating apps, according to a new survey. But do we really need that much time to be successful?
Dating app, Badoo, recently surveyed its database of 370 million users worldwide to discover how much time people really dedicate to dating apps. On average, people spend about 90 minutes a day online dating, and men tend to spend more time swiping on apps than women do (85 minutes versus 79 minutes a day).
It may seem like a lot, but according to the survey, people log on about 10 times a day on average, and each session lasts about nine minutes long. So most people aren't exactly on their phones for an hour and a half straight looking to meet new people. When you're logging on multiple times a day, you never really realize how much time you're actually spending on dating apps. In short, the minutes really do add up. But they might not be necessary.
"I would say that 10 hours per week is a bit much," online dating consultant, Stacy Karyn, tells Bustle. "But this also depends on the person."
If you genuinely enjoy the process of online dating, it might be OK for you to spend more time on them. However, if you regularly get frustrated or upset by the process, Karyn suggests cutting down your usage down to prevent dating app burnout. "I’ve seen many people make the mistake of spending hours at a time on dating sites, but this can also be counterproductive," Karyn says. "The only thing you need to be successful is consistency and patience."
Focus on sending a specific number of messages a day and limit the amount of times you log on. Answer all the messages that need your response, send out a few new ones, and don't log back on until the next day. "By doing this, you will be allowing these interactions to unfold naturally, rather than forcing them to develop quickly," she says. "This will also enable you to spend more time on self-development and growth, which makes you a bigger catch in the long run."
If spending 90 minutes a day on a dating app is too much, how much time should you actually be spending on it? Of course, it may depend on what you're looking for, but generally, here's what dating experts have to say on the matter: