On Saturday, Dec. 9, former One Tree Hill actor and country musician Jana Kramer revealed that she had suffered a miscarriage on Instagram. The emotional post told the story of her loss, and was paired with a picture of her holding an ultrasound photo. In it, she revealed that she had suffered a miscarriage in the past, and that she hoped other women didn't feel as if they had to go through the experience alone. "Today I am 1-3. I debated posting this for the exact reason why it’s a silent struggle. I don’t want I’m sorry or sympathy. I just don’t want to feel alone. And I know I’m not," Kramer wrote in the post caption.
It can be difficult to go through a miscarriage, and Kramer wrote that she hopes her story will open up a greater discussion. While it isn't often discussed in a public forum, one in four women who become pregnant will suffer a miscarriage, according to Today. The loss can feel devastating and isolating, and it's important for couples to feel they have an outlet to discuss the experience and find a support system during that time. Kramer's post reaches out to fellow women in particular, should feel they can share their thoughts during the difficult time and understand that they don't have to go through it alone.
In her Instagram caption, Kramer continued:
"This unfortunately isn’t my first loss. When I first found out I was pregnant I wanted to shout it from the rooftop but I know for reasons like this we have to wait. So because we don’t tell many, we have to suffer silently...and suffering silently was my thing in the past, but it’s not now. For the women out there who have miscarried in the past and need support and a place to grieve their little one lost or to those in the thick of it like me who are currently grieving and in pain, let us all be there for each other."
The OTH actor revealed that this wasn't the first miscarriage she suffered, but this time she wanted to reach out and help others trying to process their grief.
In recent months, celebs seem to be more open about discussing the topic of miscarriage publicly. In October, former US Olympics gymnast Shawn Johnson East shared that she suffered a miscarriage as well in an emotional video on YouTube with her husband Andrew East. In the video, the two discussed the miscarriage publicly as a way to work through the experience and thank fans for their support during the difficult time.
“It was a super emotional roller coaster, and one that we never imagined sharing with the world," Johnson said in the video. "But we felt like so many people go through it that it was something we wanted to share with you guys. We’ve never posted anything that raw and real before, and it meant a lot to us." Johnson, who lost the baby just one week after finding out she was pregnant, also wanted to reach out to women who might be struggling with a similar experience.
Johnson acknowledged in the video that suffering a miscarriage would mean a grieving period for her and her husband, and this is a sentiment that Kramer seems to share in her IG post. In her post, Kramer emphasized in the caption that this isn't something women should feel they have to do alone. She offered a link to some resources for people looking for a sense of community during the difficult times.
She wrote in the caption:
"You don’t need to feel alone and maybe that’s me talking to myself but if you need a place to share, I’m here for you...and all of us are (and guys too. We sometimes silence your voice because you feel bad to express how it’s made u feel so let this be a safe place for you too). And because I don’t have all the words to say because I’m knee deep in crying and trying to listen to God, my girlfriend @alittlebitfancy says them for me. But in her Words and her story on her loss. It’s powerful and strong and those who have suffered a loss I truly feel u can heal reading her blog. I know for me it helped. Head over to her page. Her link is in the bio and also in my bio. I love you guys. #yourenotalone"
Kramer included a post from her friend Kristen Brust's blog, A Little Bit Fancy, that addressed Brust's own experience with miscarriage. The post is another example of how by sharing this difficult story women can help each other heal. There is still a lot of silence and stigma around the topic of miscarriage, but the experience is more common than many people might assume. These social media stories are a positive example of how women can shatter that silence, and find support in each other's experiences.