Despite having been relatively tight-lipped about his personal life in the past, Oscar Isaac spoke about his marriage to Elvira Lind at length for the first time — and the reasons they decided to wed were both surprisingly practical and incredibly romantic. Isaac recently sat down for an interview with GQ, and discussed everything from his career, to the pressures of fame, to his reasons for living in New York over Los Angeles. His candid admissions about marriage, however, provided a refreshing perspective on the institution — and gave fans a honest glimpse into his long-term relationship with Lind.
According to People, Isaac and Lind — a documentary film maker — welcomed their first child, Eugene, together back in April 2017. The couple had secretly wed in March of the same year, and were just returning from their Caribbean honeymoon at the time of Isaac's interview with GQ.
Isaac seemingly confirmed his marriage to Lind for the first time during a 2017 conversation with Esquire, in which the article referred to her as his wife, but up until now, the actor had yet to reveal much else about their marriage. When asked by GQ why they decided to get married, Isaac confessed a broad, well-considered range of reasons.
First, the practical reasons: "[Lind is] Danish — she's not a citizen," the Star Wars: The Last Jedi actor said, "and she was very pregnant, and there was an element of figuring out 'Well, where are we going to be?' And us wanting to be a family unit a bit more."
The actor went on to elaborate about the cultural differences between Danes and Americans — Isaac was born in Guatemala, but has lived in the U.S. since he was a baby, according to an interview with the Miami Herald. He noted to GQ that "the Danes, they don't really believe in marriage. I think it has a lot to do with the equality of the sexes over there. Marriage doesn't mean anything financially, because the state takes care of people. So the marriage itself becomes less important."
Sensible? Sure. Romantic? Not really. His next admission, however, revealed an entirely different (and super sentimental) perspective on the reasons behind the couple's decision to ultimately wed:
"But, you know, at the time, right before [the wedding], my mom was ill, and so I saw [Lind] carrying my child, bathing my sick mom — seeing her do that, I just thought: 'I want to be with this person forever and ever.' And I just wanted to take that extra step as well. And so my mom passed in February and we got married in March and our son was born in April."
Almost immediately after the death of his mother, his marriage to Lind, and the subsequent birth of their son, Isaac was hurled into his starring role in Hamlet — a role that had him performing six shows a week. He described the experience as "physically overwhelming," noting that any time spent off-stage was devoted to vocal rest.
"But I felt like [being on vocal rest] gave me a psychological space to deal with a lot of stuff," he said. "And in fact I was afraid when it was over that I wasn't going to know where to put a lot of the pain — but also the joy — of those two things [the death of his mother and the birth of his son] happening right on top of one another. But you figure it out. It feels like it was a dream now. It was just a few months of performing, and then it was gone. It's as if it didn't happen."
Isaac also credited the actual text of Hamlet in terms of helping him process both his grief and joy on-stage. "Hamlet is about everything," he said. "In fact, it gave me space to deal with stuff that's unimaginable and impossible to comprehend and to give voice to it, give word to it. This f*cking guy William Shakespeare wrote this thing that's like a religious text — it helped give a context and an understanding in words to some of the deepest feelings that I think a human can experience."
So, not only is he handsome and talented, but the man is also incredibly insightful, introspective, and in touch with his emotions. Swoon. Too bad we now know that he's officially off the market.