For a lot of couples, it doesn't get more intimate than anal play. However, building up to the deed isn't always as easy for some as it seems to be for others (which is fine — everyone should only do what they're comfortable with when they're comfortable with it), so I reached out to some of the leading experts in the field to get their tips on the best anal sex toys for couples who want to open that backdoor but still aren't sure where to start.
"What I’ve seen with my clients is that a lot of women who can’t have vaginal orgasms can have anal orgasms," says Sunny Rodgers, a clinical sexologist and certified sex coach. "And, many couples have found that they both have stronger orgasms with anal sex play."
One of the big reasons for that has to do with the anal region itself, which is filled with nerve endings, which means partners are more likely to be responsive, even to the slightest touch. To make anal play as fun as possible, Rodgers recommends plenty of lube: "Silicone lubricant lasts longer than water-based lubricant and so I always recommend it for anal intercourse." Also, for beginners, having the receiving partner back up onto their partner’s penis or toy allows them to be in control of speed, depth, and movement, which can make play more comfortable and more satisfying.
But incredible orgasms are just one of the benefits of anal play. For many couples, it can also be an intense bonding experience. "Because of the physical and emotional vulnerability of anal play, couples are open to exploring deeper levels of intimacy and pleasure," says Miyoko Rifkin, a sex toy expert and intimacy expert.
With that in mind, here are some of the best anal sex toys for couples to use together that have been recommended by experts.
A Slim Vibrating Plug That Keeps Couples In Sync
Couples new to anal play want to look for a "small but slim butt plug," says Rifkin. This vibrating butt plug is definitely slim enough to fit the bill, and because of its small size, it's not as intimidating as other plugs on the market. But this USB-rechargeable plug also has a little something more going on. With over 5,000 vibration patterns, this plug allows couples to customize their grooves and control patterns from across long distances, which gives this toy a little something extra.
This Ultra-Wearable Plug That You Can Use Throughout The Day
This silicone anal plug by Pipedream features a tapered tip and is a delightful option for couples because it has "a great design that is easy to insert and very wearable during sex play," says Rodgers. But it's also terrific for those who want a hypoallergenic, easy-to-clean plug that's comfortable enough to wear all day long.
A Vibrating Prostate Massager For When You Need A Good Buzz
"Great anal sex requires advanced communication skills and trust between partners," says Rifkin. Couples who have built up to that comfort level may especially enjoy a silicone prostate massager like this has two vibrating motors and 10 speeds, but still manages to be whisper-quiet. Because of its L shape, the rounded tip is designed for easy insertion, while the curvier end is perfect for tickling the P-spot. This toy is also waterproof, so couples can get as wet and wild as they want during play.
A Glass Anal Plug For Intense New Delights
This curvy butt plug looks a bit like a weird seahorse, but don't let the cuteness fool you: it can deliver explosive G-spot, P-spot, and anal pleasure. Its curves were designed to stimulate the nerve-endings of the anal and vaginal inner walls, and because of the temperature-receptive properties of glass, it will warm naturally to match your body's heat during play. Rodgers also recommends glass wands for couples since "their smoothness is incomparable and glass is very comfortable to wear and super easy to clean." However, she does advise that beginners avoid glass wands, at least to start, because of their "lack of flexibility."
A Vibrating Prostate Massager For A Mind-Blowing Ride
According to Rodgers, "The Sir Richard's Element PM, is perfect for couples wanting to experience vibration in addition to prostate stimulation." One of the major advantages of this silicone, waterproof, and vibrating massager is its size. Rodgers goes on to explain that this vibrating anal massager can be worn during sex play, and as an added bonus it can stimulate the partner's perineum.
A Strap-On Kit For Experienced Couples
"The possibilities are endless when it comes to your pleasure and your imagination," says Rifkin, who recommends strap-ons for more experienced couples." Just remember to keep it safe, consensual, and pleasurable for both partners." This kit features two dildos, rings, adjustable straps, and a mini-vibe, this kit delivers everything you need to get started.
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