For a lot of couples, it doesn't get more intimate than anal play. However, building up to the deed isn't always as easy for some as it seems to be for others (which is fine — everyone should only do what they're comfortable with when they're comfortable with it), so I reached out to some of the leading experts in the field to get their tips on the best anal sex toys for couples who want to open that backdoor but still aren't sure where to start.
"What I’ve seen with my clients is that a lot of women who can’t have vaginal orgasms can have anal orgasms," says Sunny Rodgers, a clinical sexologist and certified sex coach. "And, many couples have found that they both have stronger orgasms with anal sex play."
One of the big reasons for that has to do with the anal region itself, which is filled with nerve endings, which means partners are more likely to be responsive, even to the slightest touch. To make anal play as fun as possible, Rodgers recommends plenty of lube: "Silicone lubricant lasts longer than water-based lubricant and so I always recommend it for anal intercourse." Also, for beginners, having the receiving partner back up onto their partner’s penis or toy allows them to be in control of speed, depth, and movement, which can make play more comfortable and more satisfying.
But incredible orgasms are just one of the benefits of anal play. For many couples, it can also be an intense bonding experience. "Because of the physical and emotional vulnerability of anal play, couples are open to exploring deeper levels of intimacy and pleasure," says Miyoko Rifkin, a sex toy expert and intimacy expert.
With that in mind, here are some of the best anal sex toys for couples to use together that have been recommended by experts.