What noises do you make during sex? Some people are all about the moans and the dirty talk, while others are the silent type. There's a huge range in the type of noises that people make and, it turns out, in the type of noises people find sexy in bed.
Saucydates.com, a casual dating site, surveyed 5,024 of their users about what sounds they found hot in the bedroom and the results were really interesting. Some noises turned almost everyone on, but others didn't fare so well. But before we drive into them, it's important to remember that you should never force yourself to make (or not make) any noises in the bedroom. Just because moaning might be considered "sexy" to some people doesn't mean you should start imitating a porn star. You need to do what feels right for you in the moment.
Really, the most important noise in the bedroom is good communication — no matter what form that comes in. It might be dirty talk, moaning, or just a straight-up conversation, but communicating is one of the best things you can do for your sex life.
"Knowing what you want and being able to express that will ignite things in the bedroom," Sarah Watson, sex therapist and counselor, tells Bustle. "Talk with your partner about what turns you on and what doesn't. Decide how to explore wants and desires together. The more intimacy in the relationship generally leads to a healthy sexual relationship." If you're communicating to your partner what you like or don't like, what you want, and what you need, then you're doing it right.
If you're curious about what people find sexy during sex, here are the noises that turn people on, according to the survey.
While a whopping 90 percent of men liked to hear their partner moan, a not as large (but still sizable) 77.6 percent of women said the same.
Dirty talk was also pretty popular with both genders. In fact, 76.8 percent of men said that they enjoyed it and 73.5 percent of women agreed. Although it can be awkward to get into at first, there are plenty of ways to do dirty talk without feeling uncomfortable, if you want to give it a try. If you don't like it, don't worry.
Heavy breathing" sounds a little like a murderer waiting outside your door, but I'm sure they mean it in the sexier sense. While 60.1 percent of men said they were into it, less than half of women — 45.9 percent — said the same. People are pretty split on the issue.
Apparently for men, screaming in bed (the joyful kind) was a 50/50 split — but for women, only 36.2 percent said it was their thing.
Apparently swearing and dirty talk aren't the same thing because swearing was way less popular than talking dirty. While around three quarters of people liked dirty talk, only 38.6 percent of men and 31.2 percent of women said that swearing did it for them.
I didn't know that squeaking during sex was a real thing, but for 17.9 percent of men and 14.8 percent of women, it's a turn-on.
Now, silence gets a bad rap, but 12.8 percent of women said they liked it being totally quiet during sex. And 8.3 percent of men agreed. So just because it may not be everyone's thing, doesn't mean it can't be yours. Strong and silent is totally fine.
When it comes to noises during sex, whatever feels natural for you is always going to be your best bet. As long as you're communicating about your sexual needs, in any way, shape, or form, you're doing something right.