For me, my mind during sex is focused on the eroticism of my experience — it's my most cherished erogenous zone. I close my eyes and allow myself to become in touch with my imagination in order to arouse my mind, body, and soul. I feel lost in the beautiful experience I'm sharing with a partner and I think of our synchronicity and how I can bring us closer.
I engage all of my senses. I feel in tune with their body — their smell, their touch, their kisses, their heartbeat. Their moans awaken me and arouse my senses. I think of how my partner is experiencing pleasure in the moments that we are sharing and how I can satisfy them. I think of how I can make my partner feel special and how I can elevate our intimacy to new heights.
But not everyone stays in the moment during sex — a lot of us get distracted and have trouble tuning into our body. "If you're always worried about what you need to do during the day, try jotting down a to do list before you get it on. You'll get those worries out of your mind and down on the paper before you even begin," Amy Levine, sex coach and founder of Ignite Your Pleasure, tells Bustle.. "Focus on the positive. If you're worried about your body, then think about the parts that make you feel the most sexy. What's at least one body part you love? Focus on that and flaunt it."
I spoke with millennial men and women to gain more insight on what they think of during sex.