What Is It Like Donating Eggs? 9 Women On Reddit Share Their Experiences
Like many young American women, I used to view egg donation as a financial escape hatch — a way to pay off student loans or medical bills by donating something my body was producing anyway. In reality, it's as complicated as any other medical procedure, but women's real experiences with egg donation can be surprisingly hard to find. It doesn't help that it's relatively new; the first successful pregnancy using donated eggs took place in Australia in 1983. Furthermore, as the New York Times recently (and extensively) pointed out, there's little information about its long-term health effects on donors. How are women supposed to make an informed decision about the procedure?
This question is what led a Reddit user to post on the subreddit Ask Women, requesting people to share their stories about donating eggs. "How did it go, and were you glad you did it?" the user wrote.
Dozens of women responded. Those who had actually donated listed the physical and emotional effects of donating eggs, which seems to affect everyone differently. Others said they had attempted to donate but didn't make it through the strict screening processes. Meanwhile, women who were considering donation chimed in to ask further questions: Did it hurt? Were there mood swings? How often do donors think about the children they'll never meet?
Whether you're thinking about donating your own eggs or you're just curious, the thread is incredibly informative. You can check it out for yourself on Ask Women, but here are nine highlights from the comments.
In the most extensive comment by far, the user described every step of the procedure, from filling out paper work in October 2016 to the donation in June 2017. Read the entire comment for yourself here.
Like many donors, this woman was initially drawn in by the financial compensation.
This may be one of the reasons egg donation is usually anonymous.
Another extensive comment, this user wrote about the emotional implications of anonymous donation. "I don't know who the eggs went to and they didn't even so much as see a picture of me. I think it would be kind of cool to meet the kid when he/she turns 18," she wrote.
Depending on the size of the organization, the screening process for egg donation can be surprisingly stringent. Organizations often look at age (21-29 years old), physical and emotional wellbeing, and even education.
It's not uncommon for people to donate extra frozen embryos after in-vitro fertilization.
Egg donation is a personal decision, but it can absolutely affect relationships with others.
Being turned down for one registry doesn't mean you'll never be able to donate.
While many women appear not to regret their donation, it isn't for everyone. In the end, you'll have to make the decision for yourself.