Everyone knows that communication is important in a long-term relationship. Taking the time to check in with each other, chat to each other, and being able to express how you're feeling and what you need makes your relationship so much easier. Problems get dealt with — rather than brewing into something terrible — and you can both rest easier knowing that you're on the same page. But for some couples, it may be helpful to go deeper. Dr. Pepper Schwartz, PhD, AARP Love and Relationship Ambassador, suggests that an annual checkup may be perfect for long-term relationships. If you've been together a long time, it's easier to let the smaller things slide, to start to assume you know what's going on with another person. But that's dangerous, because it can lead to complacency.
"Just as your car needs to be tuned periodically, every relationship needs to be recharged now and then," Dr. Schwartz tells Bustle. "Couples who have been together for a year or longer can benefit from a relationship checkup. After the initial days and nights of your relationship when you couldn’t keep your hands off each other, everyday life takes over. It’s so common for couples who work hard or have a busy social calendar to let a weekend slip by without being intimate."
So here's what you should bring up in an annual checkup to keep your relationship going strong: