Bibi Deitz is a writer, editor and native New Yorker. She holds an MFA in fiction writing from Bennington College and lives in Brooklyn. More at bibideitz.com.
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What No One Tells You About What It's Really Like To Be A Surrogate

Eloise Drane, an Atlanta-based young woman — just 22 at the time — was in California to donate a kidney to her cousin in 1998, and saw an ad calling for egg donation. “I applied through that ad, and I was an egg donor a couple of times,” she tells Bu…
By Bibi Deitz

The Way Your Name Affects Your Love Life

Burning question of the day: Does your name affect your love life? As my Magic 8 Ball used to say, signs point to yes. Tons of studies and surveys have been done over the years on the significance of names, and it turns out that the answer to "What's…
By Bibi Deitz

This Is The Best Way To Kiss Someone

Everyone has a different kissing style. And I've always assumed that if you come across someone whose kissing style is not your own, you have two choices: get used to their kisses, or find a different partner. But what if there's a third option? What…
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17 Dating Habits You Didn't Realize Were Toxic

Toxic relationships: At first blush, hell no to that, right? But the tricky thing about toxicity is that it can be sneaky, and pervasive, and there's even a chance that you might be exhibiting certain toxic dating habits and not realize it. Crazy, hu…
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3 #RelationshipGoals That Are Actually Healthy

Social media can be detrimental to self-esteem, cause major feelings of anxiety — and create a skewed image of #relationshipgoals. There are healthy relationship goals, based in honesty, intimacy and real life, and then there are superficial ones, wh…
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The Subtle Sign Someone Should Be Your Best Friend

You know when you lock eyes with someone at a party and you just know — you know — that the two of you are destined to be … friends? It might sound strange, but there are actually signs that give away the fact that someone should be your best friend.…
By Bibi Deitz

What If Your Partner Doesn't Want Kids—And You Do?

If you want children and your partner doesn’t, it might seem as though things are hopeless — like there’s nothing more you or your partner can do. But what should you do if you want kids and your partner doesn't want kids? I asked 13 relationship exp…
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Is Your Partner Harming Your Family Relationships?

It’s not always the easiest transition to introduce your parents to your new partner, but if things have never been calm between your partner and your fam, and you're close with your family, there might be a serious problem. Watch out for signs your …
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What You Learn From Someone Who Treats You Right

It is a markedly different experience to date someone who is kind, compassionate, loving, and present if you're used to dating jerks, or at least people who don't cherish you. And you learn so many valuable things when you finally start dating someon…
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The Sign You Have An Unhealthy Friendship

Friends can get us through anything — the best of times, the worst of times, and everything in between. There are friends who are less than ideal for us, though, and many signs of an unhealthy friendship. It can be really difficult to differentiate b…
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What You Should Always Expect In A Relationship

Whether you are in a relationship, embarking upon one, or just thinking about the possibility of being in one someday, there are certain things you should expect in a relationship. Eight certain things, to be exact. Or at least according to a gaggle …
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10 Mistakes You're Making On This Dating App

Online dating can be confusing, and the plethora of platforms is extreme, with dozens of options at your fingertips. But if you've narrowed it down to dating app Hinge, there are some easy-to-fix dating mistakes you might be making, according to a co…
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11 Personal Questions To Ask On A First Date

There are two schools of thought about first dates: Play it super cool, or go deep. If you're apt to try the second route, there are certain personal questions to ask on the first date. I mean, if we all put our heads together, we could probably thin…
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15 Things You Should Look For In A Relationship

We all know you shouldn't just throw yourself willy-nilly into the first relationship that comes down the pike. But what are the things you should look for in a relationship, specifically? For better or worse, we often hear more about the things you …
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9 Signs Your Partner Isn't At Ease Around You

If your partner doesn't feel comfortable when the two of you are kicking back together, that is obviously an issue. If this is the case, you might not even be fully aware of the fact that it is going on — so what are the signs your significant other …
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The Biggest Triggers That Arise In Relationships

Relationships are beautiful and awesome, but they can also be really painful when your major triggers come to the surface. So what are the biggest triggers that come up in relationships, and how can you deal with them? To get to the bottom of this, I…
By Bibi Deitz

What To Do If Only One Of You Wants To Get Married

It's a story that is all too familiar in this day and age: A couple meets, falls in love, dates for a while, starts merging their lives — and then it comes out that one of them doesn’t want to get married. If this is your story, what should you do if…
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14 Awesome Things To Do With Your Partner Daily

At the end of a long day, all you want to do is take a long, hot shower (or bath) and hit the sheets. But what is one awesome thing you can do with your partner every day, even if you’re as tired as a dog? I asked this question of 14 love and relatio…
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This Is Why Is Your Partner Is So Argumentative

Being with an argumentative partner is like living with a dog that pees on the floor — super cute and lovable, but an ongoing and lingering issue that threatens to overshadow your whole relationship. This, of course, begs the question: Why are some p…
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How Should You Handle Your Partner's Bad Moods?

Let's say you've been looking forward to seeing your partner all day, you finally finish work, you meet up with them — and they're in the worst mood ever. So how should you deal with your partner's bad moods? It can feel like a real nightmare situati…
By Bibi Deitz