6 Things To Do With His Butt, Because Anal Sex Can Be For Everyone

Hey hey, raise your hand if you’re into butt play! Anal activity has been gaining public popularity for people of all sexualities and genders these days and I think that’s awesome. Even straight guys can be into butt stuff — who can forget that epic scene in Broad City when Abbi’s super hot, super manly-man neighbor Jeremy asks him to peg her? While she may have been a little surprised, at first, Abbi did ultimately strap on the dick and give it to her boo just the way he wanted it.

But butt play can be scary for the uninitiated. Unlike the vagina or mouth, the butt (obviously) does not self lubricate and it can be scary to figure out how, exactly, you should go about putting stuff up there. Throw in the fact that most straight guys are not used to being penetrated by anything at all and you’ve got a whole host of things you need to figure out before doing your boyfriend in the butt.

Step one is obviously seeing if he’s into it. Maybe, like Jeremy, your partner has already told you that he’s down with pegging. (Pegging, by the way, is the term for girls doing boys in the butt with a strap on. The term comes from a contest that sex advice columnist Dan Savage held searching for a name for the sex act.) Or maybe you’re just turned on by the idea of playing with his butt and need to bring it up yourself. Either way, once it’s established that he’s into it, here are some tips — which I mainly sourced from some straight and bisexual guy friends of mine who I know are into butt stuff — on how to make it awesome.

1. Communicate!

I know I kind of already said this but the most important thing you have to do if you're going to be introducing butt stuff with your boyfriend is talk about — a lot. Obviously you have to talk about it at first but you also have to keep talking throughout the whole experience. Ask him how he feels; make sure you’re hitting the right spots; let him know that he can tell you to stop at any time.

2. Start Small

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Small like pinky small. The anus is a muscle and, like any muscle, it shouldn’t go from zero to completely engaged in a short amount of time. Tearing, friends, is real. In order to make sure that the whole anal play experience is good for your partner, start small and then build up as he and his butt get more and more accustomed to things being up there.

3. Lube It Up

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4. Take Your Time

Go slowly to prevent discomfort, both when you’re in the act and when it comes to moving on to bigger and better things. Also, once you have anything bigger than a finger or two up in there, give his butt time to acclimate and don’t move around too much. After a few minutes, he should be relaxed enough for you to go for it. See also, “Start Small” and “Communicate!”

5. Warm Up Those Muscles

Just like you shouldn’t sprint cold, you should introduce butt sex cold either. Have him clench and unclench his sphincter once your finger or toy is already in there

6. Step It Up

After you’ve played with fingers and small toys for awhile, don’t be scared to step up your game. While you probably don’t need a super fancy, artisanal dildo like Jeremy used, head over to a sex-positive sex shop like Babeland to find your perfect strap on and get pegging, girl.

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