Who says sex has to be composed of the same two or three positions? While the average person shouldn't expect sex to be porno-level — not that porn situations and positions are all that great IRL anyway — it's not so bad to want to shake things up every once in a while. For some, that could mean having quickies in the car or getting it on in front of a mirror. For others, it could mean making small changes, like talking dirty in order to spice things up. But if you're looking for a way to make your sex life just a tad bit more interesting, why not throw some new positions into the mix?
Whether you’re a female looking to reach orgasm every single time or are on a quest to find that ever-elusive G-spot, here are nine advanced sex positions that you may want to try — because sex shouldn’t always have to be missionary or doggy. Let me assure you now that you don’t need to be a Olympic gold medalist gymnast for these to work. All you need is yourself, your partner, and a willingness to try.
1. X Marks The Spot
How It's Done: Hop up onto a surface that’s about hip-height for your guy. Then, lie on your back with your legs draped over the edge. Your guy will then stand in between your legs, lift them up into the air, and cross them over each other to make an “X.” To keep things stable, you can balance your ankles on his shoulders, or he can hold your legs up against his body.
Why You Should Do It: This position is optimal for hitting the G-spot, due to the alignment of your bodies. Also, the crossing of the legs makes for a very tight fit. This position just screams spontaneous quickie. Why wait for a bed when there are tons of crotch-level surfaces on which to get it on — like, say, at the office? But of course, if you're going to go at it on top of a kitchen counter, be sure to keep the roommate sex etiquette rules in mind.
How It's Done: Similar to X Marks the Spot, find a surface — like a table or a bed — that is a little lower than his crotch. Lie down. While still standing, your guy will crouch down and start to penetrate you. While he does so, slowly lift your legs up, one by one, and rest your ankles on his shoulders, moving your hips up a few inches into the air. For support, he can help by cupping your butt or hips. But for an even tighter fit, he can hold both of your ankles in his hand. Pillows placed under your hip can also help with getting better angles for your bodies.
Why You Should Do It: It’s great for creating really deep stimulation that both of you will enjoy. Plus, it takes effort on the part of both partners to pull off this position, so no one can say that they did all the work.
3. Tighter Doggy Style
How It's Done: As in traditional doggy style, get on your hands and knees and have him enter you from behind. In regular doggy, the guy usually keeps his legs in between the woman’s. But in this variation, the woman holds her legs together, while the man keeps his farther apart and rests them outside of hers, making for an even tighter fit.
Why You Should Do It: There’s no questioning the fact that guys absolutely love doggy style. And for some women, the idea of surrendering to a dominating alpha male is a huge turn-on. In this variation, your bodies are angled in a way to make hitting the G-spot much easier, whether penetration is shallow or deep.
4. The Splitter
How It's Done: Lie on your back while your partner kneels in front of you, straddling one of your outstretched legs. Then, take your other leg and lift it up into the air so that it rests on his chest or shoulder.
Why You Should Do It: Because of the alignment of your bodies, he’ll be able to get in nice and deep.
5. The Sofa Brace
How It's Done: Both you and your partner get on your knees, with him behind you. Then, drape yourself over the edge of the sofa so that you’re being bent at the hips. He can either choose to keep his torso upright or bend over with you.
Why You Should Do It: Rear entry is always a man’s favorite for penetration. Plus, if he wants to make you feel even better, he can easily reach around and stroke your clitoris. It’s a win-win for everyone. Though this position pretty much requires you to be draped over something, you don't need to necessarily limit yourself to the couch. If you want to up the thrill, try going at it on a staircase. Or for the really adventurous, try it on the roof.
6. Sideways Straddle
How It's Done: This is one more advanced way to do girl-on-top. Have your guy lie on his back with both feet flat on the ground. Crouch over him, with one of your legs between his legs, and the other leg on his side. Lower yourself to your knees and slowly guide his penis inside of you. Essentially, you’ll be straddling one of his knees, facing away from him. From there, you can begin rocking back and forth against his upper thigh and pubic area.
Why You Should Do It: Because it’s a slightly more complicated version of girl-on-top, you have control, and you know what feels good for you. Plus, it allows for some great grinding action.
7. The Bridge
How It's Done: The bridge exercise is widely known for helping you achieve that perfectly sculpted butt. Now, imagine doing that exercise, throw in a partner, and you have yourself a new sex position. To begin, get in missionary. Then, have him sit up so that he’s sitting on his ankles with his knees spread apart. While on your back, keep your feet flat on the bed, and arch your hips up so you’re in that bridge position. From there, he can grab your hips for leverage as he thrusts into you.
Why You Should Do It: It’s not only great for deep stimulation and hitting the G-spot, but your clitoris is right there for him to do with it what he will.
8. The Proposal
How It's Done: Have him get on one knee like he’s going to propose. Then, facing forward, approach him on both of your knees, and ease him into you.
Why You Should Do It: For one, you’re in control. Plus, it’s a great exercise in exploring how your bodies align with each other.
9. The Crab Walk
How It's Done: Do you ever remember doing the crab walk in P.E.? Well, that’s essentially what this is. Except, of course, with another person (and hopefully an orgasm at the end). First, both of you get into the crab walk position, where both feet are flat on the floor with your hands supporting your weight from behind. Then, you face him. Lift your pelvis up and slowly move your body towards him until you can lower yourself down onto his penis.
Why You Should Do It: This is another great position to try if you want to be in control. Since deep penetration isn’t exactly possible with this position, you can try getting down on your elbows for a different angle, or tell him to stay put while you grind up against him.
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