How Important Is Sex In A New Relationship? 8 Experts Weigh In

I will admit that when it comes to new relationships, I don’t tend to play by traditional “dating rules.” Nobody has time for hard to get or chasing someone. Besides, if you want something done, it’s better to do it yourself. Games are for children. Needless to say, when it comes to sex in new relationships, I don't believe in waiting for a certain date or amount of days before you sleep with someone. Everyone is different — and so is every type of relationship. If you want to hookup after the first date and it feels right for both of you, then why the hell not?

Numerous dating experts will advise people to hold off on the sex until they’re in a fully committed relationship—if that’s what they’re looking for. Some women fear that having sex too soon can jeopardize any chances of having a relationship. But the truth of the matter is, if someone truly likes you, they’ll stick around whether you have sex one date in, one month in, or one year in. Regardless of when you have sex, it's pretty much a given fact that when two people who find each other attractive start getting together, sex is probably going to happen at one point.

But just how important is sex in a new relationship? Do you wait it out a bit for actual commitment? Or do you go with the flow and go with the intense sexual energy flowing between you two? And, how much sex should you be having in the beginning? I talked to eight experts on the subject of sex in new relationships, and this is what they had to say:

1. Renée Suzanne, Love Coach For "Smart Successful Women Who Want To Find Love"

2. Jonathan Bennett, Certified Counselor, Dating, And Relationship Coach

3. Toni Coleman, Pychotherapist And Relationship Coach

4. Dawn Serra, Sex And Relationship Coach, And Co-host Of Sex Gets Real Podcast

5. Paul Murdock, Clinical Psychologist And Director Of Theory & Therapy and Murdock Counseling Services

6. John Sovec, Psychotherapist In Pasadena, CA

7. Eboni Harris, Relationship And Family Therapist

8. Michele Fabrega, a Love, Intimacy, And Sexuality Coach For Men

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