Saying “I love you” to your partner is crucial. You need your other half to know how you feel — never leaving him or her to question your love. Saying these three simple words will make your significant other feel your love on a daily basis, but there are also creative ways to show love that don't involve saying those three little words at all. Sometimes actions speak louder than words. Communicating your love is key,
“I love you” means nothing to your partner if it isn’t backed up with your actions. For instance, if you tell your boyfriend or girlfriend in the morning how much you love him or her, but by the afternoon you’ve already treated them badly for no reason, or tried to pick a fight a time or two and then said rude comments, your love isn’t really shining through, no matter how many times you told them in the morning. Having a background in counseling psychology and experience as a couples therapist, I know that everybody expresses their love and admiration differently. Stay true to who you are, but also find new ways to make your partner not only feel important, but also loved deeply. Here are seven creative ways to show love without saying it.
1. Perform Random Acts Of Kindness
Kindness can go a long way when it comes to love. Writing your other half a little love note before heading off to work can make a world of difference. Or buying your love’s favorite [desert] DESSERT on the way home from work can be the sweetest thing. Act kind and your love will be known indefinitely.
Sometimes a simple touch can say so much. Holding your partner’s hand can really show your love. If you two are out in public, grabbing a hold of your significant other’s hand and holding it can really make that person feel special. Cuddling up while watching TV will make your partner want to hold onto you and the relationship.
3. Lend A Helping Hand
When you love somebody, you will do anything to help them. If your significant other is in need, offer a helping hand. Maybe your boyfriend doesn’t have time to go take in his car to the shop, so you take it in when you get off early from work. Or, maybe your girlfriend needs help fixing that shelf in her drawer and you’ve already fixed it before she needed to ask for your assistance. Even if it’s just offering a hand while your lover is getting out of the car — it’s meaningful.
Cher said it right when she sang, “It’s in his kiss. That’s where it is.” A kiss can be more than just a kiss — it can show your love. I’m not even saying it has to be a big ol’ make-out session, although that can be awfully great too. A kiss on the forehead is just as lovely. Express your love through your mouth. Just remember, it doesn’t just have to be with words.
Remembering important dates and details really shows how much you love someone. Now, I’m not just talking about remembering your anniversary. Hopefully, you’ve already got that down by now. I mean remembering when your significant other has that important meeting and texting him or her, “How did it go?” Or, remembering to make your partner's favorite soup when she’s having a not-so-great day. Show off your memory and your partner will be sure to remember how much you love him or her.
6. Pay Attention To The Little Things
It’s the little things that matter. I always say you’ve got a winner if your partner offers to take the middle seat on a plane and let’s you have the window seat. Or, you know you’ve got a serious lover when he or she will give you his napkin at a restaurant if you’re missing yours. It’s easy to say, “I love you,” but it’s not always easy to remember to do these “little” things.
Truly listening to your partner shows how much you care. Active listening is what i’m referring to. This isn’t the kind of listening where you are also scrolling through your Instagram feed at the same time your significant other is telling you how his or her went. It’s the kind of listening where you are looking at them while they are speaking and actually hearing their emotions. Love isn’t just in your heart, it’s in your ears as well.
Showing love is one of the most important things we can do with our time, so it makes sense to get creative with it now and then.
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