You know that moment when you meet a person and instantly realize that you are going to be best friends? It might be as simple as you both eat burritos for most of your meals or both cry during the same State Farm commercial. Friends are the family you choose, and a good friend is invaluable. Would Romy be able to make it through her high school reunion without awesome Michele? I think not. Would Cher be able to get over herself and eventually make out with the young hot Paul Rudd without Dion? Heck no! Building friendships can be awkward and a bit stressful. So how do you know when it’s worth it to put yourself out there and make someone your new best friend?
Luckily, we can boil it down to some main criteria! There are some key signs to look for so that you know when to hold'em and when to fold‘em. That one amazing person doesn’t come around all that often, so when you find the person who should be your bestie, don’t let them walk away! This isn’t When Harry Met Sally — this is real life. But before you go giving out friendship bracelets to everyone, double check the signs and make sure they align with you and your buddy. Sometimes a shared love of Kierkegaard is just that. But congratulations on loving Kierkegaard!
You Have Way Too Many Things In Common
Your friend is the only other person whose favorite movie is also For A Few More Dollars. Heck, most people don’t even know The Good, The Bad, and The Ugly is part of a trilogy. The fact that you both have an obsession with rocket pops and also have incredibly annoying little brothers is just a little eerie. Let’s face it, you are basically the same person. Sometimes you even pretend to be twins, because wouldn’t it be so much fun to be related! You would trade in that awful brother of yours and adopt this friend in a heartbeat.
You Are Not Scared To Talk About Difficult Subjects
When you guys are together, honesty is your policy. Some might call it oversharing, but you really don’t care. This friend is the one you run to for advice, the one you call after every date to give them the blow by blow recap, and the one you turn to when things look bleak. They always are able to talk you through problems, and they somehow manage to shine through a rainy day like a double rainbow all the way across the sky.
You Have The Best Time When You’re Together
Whether you’re going to a concert or just sitting on the couch ordering Seamless, you know you’ll have a blast with this friend. They somehow manage to take everything to the limit. When people see you together they gird their loins. You are the troublesome twosome, and whether it’s baking chocolate chip cookies or getting a bit too tipsy at the new cocktail bar, you know it’s going to be an adventure.
You Accept And Respect Each Other For Who You Are
We all have our little eccentricities and faults that we like to keep hidden, but this friend knows you inside and out and still loves the pants off of you. They know that it is those little weird and paradoxical things about you that make you who you are. That’s not to say that they won’t call you out when you’re being a bit of a jerk, but they still accept you as you are, annoying bits and all.
You Constantly Text When You're Apart
How did you even live before cell phones? Seriously, you guys are basically surgically attached at the touch screen. You are constantly updating each other throughout the day, sending funny articles and memes or just sharing pics of what you had for lunch. Every time you hear your phone "ding" you’re excited to read their reply. Messaging them makes the day so much more fun, and tides you over till your next hangout. Thank the Heavens for unlimited text!
They Challenge You To Become A Better Person
Having a truly great friend helps you grow, it increases your capacity for compassion, and makes you a more well rounded person. Letting someone into your life can be challenging. You are bound to hit road bumps along the way, but working through those problems will only strengthen your friendship. You will learn to become a better friend, a better partner, and even a better person. Now go out there and find the peanut butter to your jelly!