Life Lessons From 'The Princess and the Frog': the Only Disney Movie that Beat My Barriers of Cynicism

NEW YORK - NOVEMBER 24: 'Princess Tiana' attends the opening of 'The Princess and The Frog' the ultimate disney experience at the Roseland Ballroom on November 24, 2009 in New York City. (Photo by Stephen Lovekin/Getty Images)
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Please allow me to step on my confession soapbox: I am a bit of a cynic, especially regarding cinema. That's not to say that I think that Hollywood gets things wrong every time. I just think they get it wrong...a lot. A classic example? Disney. Even as a child, I was more of a DreamWorks girl. But that's not to say Disney hasnt't had some hard hitters:

The Little Mermaid: Essentially a story about a girl who is so desperate to get her rocks—I mean, tail—off that she turns her back on her family for a man who is so superficial that he falls for a mute with C-shells.

Snow White and the Seven Dwarves: An enthralling tale about a young, (possibly) promiscuous woman turned into a housewife (Dr. Dre would frown upon this).

Beauty and Bestiality? I mean, the Beast? Textbook case of Stockholm Syndrome. 

Okay. I think you know where I’m going with this. You may sheepishly respond, “They are just movies.” Eh, maybe. But I would counter that culture—that includes film—influences our lived experience, and vice versa. It’s a feedback loop. They're pretty influential. 

That being said, there's one Disney movie that hit me pretty hard: 2009's The Princess and the Frog. Notwithstanding some questionable racial undertones, The Princess and the Frog stands apart from other antiquated Disney movies in its modern depiction of womanhood.

Unlike traditional Disney princesses, Tiana’s life is not stagnated by the lack of a male companion. She is fierce, driven, and packs enough ambition to propel not only her own dreams but the initiative of silver-spooned, couch potato Prince Naveen. Throughout the course of the film, Tiana’s passions are never undercut by her burgeoning feelings for Naveen. She does not fade into the shadow of the man she falls for. In an interesting twist, Naveen seems to derive a sense of identity from his interactions with Tiana, from simple lessons like learning how to chop vegetables to more profound axioms such as diligence and self-sacrifice. In exchange for this, Naveen helps Tiana learn how to lighten up and laugh at life, the simplicity of which has eluded her in her quest to 'make it'. How many of us ladies can relate to that? Exactly. 

Through their relationship, Disney intimates two truths. The first is that no woman should be a mere extension of a man. The second is that two people in a relationship should complement each other in order to promote personal growth. It is my belief that we are all endowed with unique personalities and life situations for the purposes of channeling our erudition to help others, particularly our significant others. After all, what are relationships for, if not to build? 

In short, I walked away from the movie feeling refreshed and pleasantly unable to dish out my usual brand of sarcasm. Bravo, Disney. I think we can all take a note from this one. 

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