It can be tough living with roommates, but almost everyone has to do it at some point in their lives. In the last nine years, I've had nearly a dozen roommates and homes, so needless to say, I've experienced every sort of quirk and qualm that comes with sharing your home. Whether you're living with friends you've known your whole life or strangers from the internet, you're bound to have some issues under the same roof.
There's no rhyme or reason when determining a good roommate. Sometimes it's the people who you're most similar to that you clash the most with. Sometimes people who live completely different lifestyles and have opposite interests end up making the best roommates because you balance each other out and stay out of each other's hair. It totally depends on what your home life values are and how you respect and regard the people you live with. When it comes down to it, it's all about communicating and compromising. You don't have to be best friends with your roommates, but you do have to have a healthy, functioning relationship so that you can make the home a peaceful place that feels welcoming to you both.
But it's not always smooth sailing. Sometimes it takes a lot of push and pull to get into a good space with your homies. If you're having trouble getting along with your roommates or making your home feel comfortable, these are some signs that you need to work things you with your roommate, because they're the problem:
You're Always The One To Initiate
Whenever something is up between the two of you, you know that if you don't say anything, they won't bring it up. It's a pain to know that the only way things are going to get resolved is if you step up and start the process. It doesn't feel much like a team effort.
They Only Text To Talk
You Feel Like You're The Only One Who Cares
You're Both On Eggshells
When you do interact, you're both scared to say the wrong thing. You don't want to make things worse. so you say as little as possible rather than just fixing the issues by delving into a serious conversation. It's exhausting to be overly-polite all the time.
They Come Home Late And Leave Early
They Avoid Interactions
You Hear Them Complain To Their Friends
You're Uncomfortable In Your Own Home
The tension is so thick, you feel uneasy when you're home. If you're both under the same roof your skin is crawling with anxiety. Home is no longer the place you go to relax.
You're Always The One To Stock Up
If You Don't Clean, The Mess Will Stay
They Never Communicate Regarding Their Guests
You're Always Thinking About It
You Have To Bend Your Life Around Theirs
The only way for you to make the living situation work is to do whatever your roommate wants and shape your life around theirs. They don't care about what you're sacrificing, they just care about getting what they want. They'd never go out of their way to make your life easier, and yet you find yourself doing it for them all the time.
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