How To Help Your Best Friend Stay Calm On Her Wedding Day
On the morning of your best friend's wedding, she's going to need you more than she'll able to articulate. She's going to wake up in a cage of emotion that will be both disorienting and exhilarating. She's going to be too excited to catch her breath and too overwhelmed to ask for air. It's your job as her best friend to help her get back to herself so that she can be calm and present and actually enjoy her wedding.
You'll often hear stories about brides that never got a chance to try the food or sit at their table because they were on their feet the whole night greeting guests or tending to a family member that was over-indulging in the open bar. With your help and keen insight into your bestie bride's mind, you'll be able to get her to the perfect zen place that allows her to both enjoy the steak and not worry about how her extended family is behaving.
Your bestie's wedding day is going to be one of the most important days of her life. So keep in mind that she might be distracted with all the feels. You might even feel like you're walking on eggshells, because you're unsure of how she wants you to act around her. Neither of you have ever been in this situation before, so how are you supposed to know how to behave? These are 11 foolproof tips for how to act around your bestie on her wedding day, if you're unsure.
Don't Make It About You
As nervous and excited as you might be, don't make your bestie responsible for dealing with your feelings on this day. Let her worry about herself. You can tell her how happy you are for her and how much you're looking forward to the big day, but leave it at that. She doesn't need to be thinking about how to calm you down, too.
Make Sure You're Ready First
Make sure that no one is waiting on you. Make sure that you're the first to be dressed and ready to go. The quicker you get ready, the more available you are to help everyone else out.
Act As A Messenger
There's definitely someone in your bestie's family who will be very anxious. Maybe it's her sister, or maybe it's her mother, or even her grandfather. Whoever it is, locate them, and try to keep them away from her as much as possible. If they have questions or concerns, offer to be a messenger.
Don't Ask Her To Delegate Tasks
Try your best to figure out how to help without having to ask your bestie. She's under a lot of stress and pressure and the last thing she wants to do is stop to delegate. Do as much as you can on your own, before asking her.
Keep Her Fed
She's probably going to think she's too busy or too anxious to eat. But if she doesn't eat lots of protein, she's going to crash. Make sure wherever she is, be it getting her make up done or last minute seating prep, that there are some snacks around her. Nuts and fruit are easy to snack on, but if she's too nervous to eat, chase her around with a protein shake!
Keep Her Hydrated
Chances are, she's going to have herself a few too many celebratory drinks. Make sure she always has a glass of water by her side throughout the day.
Keep Distracting People Away From Her
Everyone's going to want to be fluttering around her. Her sister will want to know if her hair looks OK. Her father will want to know if his speech is good enough. Be her point person and guard her from these people. Help as much as you can on your own before she's needed.
Get Familiar With The Schedule
You might have to talk to her parents or the wedding planner, but find out the schedule for the day. This way you can help keep her on track and know what to anticipate. These events are planned down to the second.
Remind Her To Be Present
Make sure that a few times throughout the day, you make eye contact and take a deep breath together to snap into the present. Pose for a few selfies together and before all the chaos starts, have a private conversation about what this day means to her. Be as encouraging and supportive as possible.
Don't Be Afraid To Be Honest
If the make up artist is making her look like she's about to perform a cabaret and your bestie wants to know how she looks, now is the time to be honest. You don't have to be rude, but it's your job as her closest friend to look out for her.
Think About The Little Stuff
You know she gets sweaty when she's nervous and you know she has a habit of picking her nail polish. Pack an extra tube of deodorant and a bottle of nail polish to be prepared for both instances. Try to think ahead and pack your back with everything she might forget. You're her best friend, after all — you probably know her better than she knows herself.
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