Sex may technically be the “physical activity in which people touch each other's bodies, kiss each other, etc.” (according to the dictionary), but good Lord, is that boring. If you're looking for how to be more creative in bed, there are so many exciting and creative sex positions and tricks to boost your sex life. That way, if you ever write a memoir of your life, the erotic scenes won’t read something like this: “We touched each other’s bodies. We kissed each other. We etcetera-ed.”
While people often assume that more sex leads to more happiness, a recent study found quite the opposite: when sex becomes a routine thing, couples lose the motivation to have it in the first place, and their overall happiness doesn’t improve at all. However, when you make your sex life about quality rather than quantity, sparks fly, and a great way to do that is to implement some serious ways to get creative in the bedroom.
New and exciting experiences boost dopamine in your brain (which leads to a stronger sex drive and more happiness), while monotony and routine have the potential to douse that flame before it ever really gets started. Not sure where to begin? Check out these exciting and creative things to try in bed, so your memoir can read something like the Fifty Shades series (but hopefully with better grammar).
1. Give Roleplaying A Shot
Roleplaying is an awesome way to break out of your comfort zone and learn more about what turns the both of you on. 123 Frisky Sexual Fantasies is a book that features tons of steamy scenarios that you and your partner can use to boost excitement and creativity in the bedroom. Reviewers say it’s well written, super explanatory, and won’t leave you hanging.
2. Try Edible Sex Items
Taste and sex are linked because both engage your brain in specific ways and influence happy-hormone release. This edible gel tastes like delicious cotton candy, and is sure to inspire a little bit of mouth play anywhere on the body. Reviewers love the taste and texture and say it’s a great way to get the ball rolling.
3. Attempt Some Light Bondage
Paloqueth Bondage Restraint System, $22, Amazon
This Paloqueth bondage restraint system comes with everything you need to switch up the dominant and submissive roles in the bedroom. It has ten pieces that are made from a high-quality and adjustable material, and because they hook around your mattress without any need for installation, any couple can experience the trust, excitement, and fun that often accompany bondage play.
4. Utilize Stimulating Gel
According to a study from the University of Newcastle, creativity and sex drive are linked, so if you’re looking for a little inspiration in bed, start with Healthy Vibes stimulating lubricant. It uses body-safe ingredients to stimulate the genitalia and boost libido with warming and cooling sensations. It’s also non-staining and non-greasy, and the more turned on you are, the more you’ll be willing to experiment with new scenarios and positions.
5. Try Heated Massage Oils
Heated massages are a great way to engage the senses and inspire some amazing foreplay, and this Conair lotion heater allows you to heat up your favorite oils and lotions to a safe and relaxing temperature. It then dispenses the oil right into the palm of your hand, so you can go to work on your partner without any mess or hassle.
6. Toys, Toys, Toys
Tons of couples are intimidated by toys in the bedroom, but they’ve actually been shown to reduce pressure and lead to better orgasms. This Odeco rechargeable vibrating massager is long-lasting, entirely waterproof, has seven vibrational modes, and works wonderfully for both clitoris and G-spot stimulation. It also has a fun LED light, and you can recharge it in any USB port for up to 150 minutes of use.
7. Read Up On The Kama Sutra
For both foreplay and intercourse inspiration, there’s this modern take on the age-old resource: Kama Sutra For Beginners . Reviewers have called this one “truly the best guide around” because it’s straightforward, clearly written, and chock-full of suggestions and descriptions that can turn any sex life from routine to creative in little to no time at all.
8. Have Somewhere-Other-Than-The-Bed Sex
If you’re looking for new positions and new experiences, pick up a Vmitor Luxury's sex swing. It’s super durable, holds up to 300 pounds, and can be easily installed in any ceiling — bedroom or elsewhere. Because it’s fully adjustable and made from comfortable materials and a sturdy steel frame, this swing comes with endless sexual possibilities, as well as hours of creative fun.
9. Dress Up For Yourself
Lingerie isn't just about pleasing a partner. The fact is, a cute little babydoll set like this — which comes with an exquisite mesh skirt and satin trim plus an open back and lace detailing — can make you feel good just for you, and that's important, too. Reviewers of this set say it's wonderfully comfortable, fits great, and makes them feel confident AF, which makes this one a real win-win.
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