12 Best Sex Toys For Beginners
My very first sex toy was gifted to me on my 16th birthday, courtesy of my group of (very ahead of the curve) girlfriends — made possible by the new Spencer’s that had just opened up in our local mall. Albeit, it was an early introduction. But it took the guesswork out of trying to identify the best sex toys for beginners and having to navigate aisles and aisles of merchandise.
For those of you who weren’t fortunate enough to have a vibrator dropped into your lap at an early age, dipping your toe into the extensive world of sex toys can feel overwhelming. You’re not quite sure where to start, and you can’t exactly take your new toy out for a spin and return it if it doesn’t really hit the spot. So what’s an unseasoned shopper to do when trying to scout out a good buy for your first sex toy? You, my friend, have come to the right place. Whether you’re looking for a gadget to upgrade your solo sessions or want to try something new with your partner that vibrates or fits in your butt (or both!), there’s a toy that’s sure to pique your interest in this compilation of the best sex toys for beginners.
1. A Vibrator For Two That Stays In Place
Eva Couples Hands Free Personal Massager
The downside of using sex toys with a partner is that typically, you need to switch on and off for who gets to reap the benefits. Kind of like how shower sex usually means one of you is freezing cold while the other hogs all the hot water. But not so with the Eva Couples vibrator. It’s designed to be worn during hetero intercourse, and it fits right under your labia. Meaning, both parties get to enjoy the sensation it gives off. Plus, it stays put, no matter what position you and your partner shift to.
2. An Easy-To-Operate Strap-On
Tantus Bend Over Beginner Kit
Experimenting with a strap-on for the first time can be daunting, but if you opt for one like this, which comes with an adjustable, machine-washable harness, you can really make the most of your experience.
This set comes with two different silicone dildo attachments — one small and one medium — and are flared toward the bases for safe play. In addition to being hypoallergenic, boilable, and "comfortable to wear," according to reviewers, it's available in both black and purple.
3. Find The Right Fit With A Butt Plug Starter Pack
Hmxpls Silicone Jeweled Anal Plugs (Pack of 3)
Want to ease your way into backdoor play? Starting off with a three-pack like this one can be a great way to begin because generally you’ll need to try out a few out before you find the right fit. Made from super-soft and comfortable silicone, each one of these jeweled plugs is designed for long-term wear, so if you’re feeling frisky, you could really have some fun by stowing one of these away for the day. Since they’re also hypoallergenic, these plugs are firm yet gentle in your most intimate areas.
4. A No-Frills, Portable Way To Get The Job Done
Oomph! Mini Bullet Vibrator
When it comes to vibrators, size isn’t everything, especially if you’re searching for a portable option that’s small enough to fit inside a purse or backpack. Enter: This powerful mini-bullet vibe from Oomph!, which is made from super-soft silicone to give the kind intense, one-of-a-kind stimulation that’ll leave your body buzzing for more. If you’re worried about how discreet this is, don’t be. Designed to operate below 30 decibels, this toy will never give you away, even if you’re in a not-so-private place while you’re using it.
5. A Dual-Tip Vibrator For Twice The Pleasure
Sweet Vibrations The Perfect Match Vibrator
In the mood for some sweet vibrations? If so, then this dual-tip rabbit vibrator could be just what you need. It’s made with 10 incredibly powerful but also quiet settings, so you can really figure out what rhythm works best for you. Each time you charge this up via USB, you’re getting more than two hours of potentially uninterrupted fun, so you’ll never have to stress about running out of batteries. Best of all, this silicone and completely waterproof toy comes with a discreet travel case, so you can take it with you anywhere you go.
6. Strengthen Your Kegels With Ben Wa Balls
NALONE Ben Wa Balls Set
Yes, those little balls from Fifty Shades of Grey that Anastasia puts...up there before that dinner party. But fiction aside, Ben Wa balls can help strengthen your kegels and increase the power of your pelvic floor. Not to mention, they feel really good when they’re in you. These 1.37-inch weighted balls are ideal for beginners and come with a silicone strap for easy removal. Slide one (or both) of them into you, then release and contract your pelvic floor muscles. You can use them by yourself, or to get your partner turned on Christian Grey style.
7. A Cock Ring That Delivers Double The Pleasure
IMO Full Silicone Vibrating Cock Ring
There’s a lot to love about this silicone cock ring from IMO, especially if you want to make sure you and your partner are both getting off. It can help erections last longer, and since it’s waterproof, you can take it with you in the shower for extra fun. Another advantage to this toy is that it comes with a powerful motor and is equipped with up to seven pulsating modes, so it can deliver amazing clitoral stimulation when your fingers or tongue aren’t quite enough to send a partner over the edge. Rechargeable via USB and stretchy enough to fit most penis sizes, it’s definitely a great option for couples looking to play together.
8. An Adjustable Harness That's Customizable
Sportsheets Red Lace Corset Strap-On
If you're interested in experimenting with different dildos, but also want something to strap them into, get a harness that allows you to change which toys you're using. This one adjusts to fit your waist size, and is machine-washable. Plus it comes with three interchangeable rings to accommodate a variety of dildo widths.
9. A Whip That Doesn't Hurt
Carejoy Feather Tickler Spanking Whip
So, you want to try using a whip. But you want to test the waters with a less aggressive whip first, as some spanking toys are pretty hardcore. The solution? A whip that doesn't hurt, like this feather tickler. You can use it to tease your partner, or put some force behind it to give (and receive) a solid spank.
10. A Remote-Controlled Couples Vibrator
Xocity G-Spot Wearable Vibrator
For couples who are looking for a new kind of toy (or for hands-free solo play), the Xocity wearable vibrator offers clitoral and G-spot stimulation — and even the partner doing the penetrating can feel the vibrations. It comes with a remote control to customize the two powerful motors, and its flexible design ensures a comfortable fit over the pubic bone. So far, reviewers are thrilled, and have given this toy a 4.6-star rating.
11. For More Anal Pleasure, Use A Prostate Vibrator
loverbeby Anal Prostate Vibrator Plug
If you're someone with a prostate who's looking to upgrade your masturbation methods, or you're interested in experimenting with anal, this beginner-friendly prostate vibrator will do the trick. It's halfway between a vibrator and a plug to ensure a comfortable fit, and it's made from waterproof, body-safe silicone for sensitive skin. The rechargeable design offers nine speeds that you can change via the remote control.
12. A Butt Plug That Won't Get Lost Up There
Three Bump Silicone Anal Butt Plug, $9, Amazon
If you want to experiment with butt plugs, but feel kind of weird about sticking something in your butt and leaving it there, a butt plug with a handle is a safe bet for first-timers. This one comes with three bumps in varying sizes, so not only can you be sure that your butt plug won't get lost in the ether, but you can play around with different fits, until you find the right one.
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