12 Best Sex Toys For Beginners

My very first sex toy was gifted to me on my 16th birthday, courtesy of my group of (very ahead of the curve) girlfriends — made possible by the new Spencer’s that had just opened up in our local mall. Albeit, it was an early introduction. But it took the guesswork out of trying to identify the best sex toys for beginners and having to navigate aisles and aisles of merchandise.

For those of you who weren’t fortunate enough to have a vibrator dropped into your lap at an early age, dipping your toe into the extensive world of sex toys can feel overwhelming. You’re not quite sure where to start, and you can’t exactly take your new toy out for a spin and return it if it doesn’t really hit the spot. So what’s an unseasoned shopper to do when trying to scout out a good buy for your first sex toy? You, my friend, have come to the right place. Whether you’re looking for a gadget to upgrade your solo sessions or want to try something new with your partner that vibrates or fits in your butt (or both!), there’s a toy that’s sure to pique your interest in this compilation of the best sex toys for beginners.

1. A Vibrator For Two That Stays In Place

Eva Couples Hands Free Personal Massager, $100, Amazon

The downside of using sex toys with a partner is that typically, you need to switch on and off for who gets to reap the benefits. Kind of like how shower sex usually means one of you is freezing cold while the other hogs all the hot water. But not so with the Eva Couples vibrator. It’s designed to be worn during hetero intercourse, and it fits right under your labia. Meaning, both parties get to enjoy the sensation it gives off. Plus, it stays put, no matter what position you and your partner shift to.

2. An Easy-To-Operate Strap-On

SoftDream Female Strap-On Rabbit Dildo With Adjustable Harness, $20, Amazon

If you’re experimenting with a strap-on for the first time, opt for one with an adjustable harness, like this one from SoftDream. The dildo attachment comes in three different sizes, so you and your partner can decide how big or small you want to go. It’s also lightweight, making it easy to maneuver. Ideal for lesbian couples, it can also be used on your straight male partner for anal penetration.

3. Find The Right Fit With A Butt Plug Starter Pack

3-Pack Butt Plug Kit By Healthy Vibes, $17, Amazon

When you're getting comfortable with butt plugs for the first time, you’ll probably need to try a few out before you find the right fit. This 3-pack comes in varying sizes, so you can play around and see which one works best for you. Plus, once you get comfortable with the smaller sizes, you might want to switch to something a bit larger. You can use these plugs to explore the wonderful world of anal stimulation solo, or get your partner in on the fun, too.

4. A No-Frills, Portable Way To Get The Job Done

10 Speed Wireless Long Bullet Vibrator, $8, Amazon

Nowadays, most vibrators come with a ton of fancy features. But maybe you're in the market for something that’s reminiscent of the simpler days. You know, before bluetooth integration and remote control capabilities were a thing. This easy-to-operate, portable vibrator is battery powered and super discreet, and it can be used with a partner or solo.

5. Restraints That Are Comfortable And Easy To Use

Lovess Japanese Bondage Soft Silk Rope, $14, Amazon

So, you want to be tied up (or tie up your partner). For binding materials that aren’t off-putting, try this super soft restraint rope. The two-pack comes with 32 feet of rope, which may come in handy just in case you don’t succeed in nailing that bondage knot on your first attempt. Plus, the material is strong but soft to the touch, so it won’t cause chafing or rope burn.

6. Strengthen Your Kegels With Ben Wa Balls

Zensation Ben Wa Balls, $13, Amazon

Yes, those little balls from Fifty Shades of Grey that Anastasia puts...up there before that dinner party. But fiction aside, Ben Wa balls can help strengthen your kegels, and increase the power of your pelvic floor. Not to mention, they feel really good when they’re in you. These one inch balls are ideal for beginners. Slide one (or both) of them into you, then release and contract your pelvic floor muscles. You can use them by yourself, or to get your partner turned on Christian Grey style.

7. Increase Staying Power With A Cock Ring

ZIOOER Fetish Vibrating Ring, $13, Amazon.com

There are a ton of benefits that come with using a cock ring: Prolonged hard-ons and extra clitoral stimulation during hetero sex, to name a few. This vibrating ring is easy to operate, plus it's made out of silicone, which means it sides right on. It even comes with its own little battery.

8. An Adjustable Harness That's Customizable

Sportsheets Red Lace Corset Strap-On, $20, Amazon.com

If you're interested in experimenting with different dildos, but also want something to strap them into, get a harness that allows you to change which toys you're using. This one adjusts to fit your waist size, and is machine-washable. Plus it comes with three interchangeable rings to accommodate a variety of dildo widths.

9. A Whip That Doesn't Hurt

Carejoy Feather Tickler Spanking Whip, $5, Amazon

So, you want to try using a whip. But you want to test the waters with a less aggressive whip first, as some spanking toys are pretty hardcore. The solution? A whip that doesn't hurt, like this feather tickler. You can use it to tease your partner, or put some force behind it to give (and receive) a solid spank.

10. A Remote Controlled Couples Vibrator

We-Vibe Rechargeable Couples Massager, $99, Amazon

For hetero couples who want everything customized to their liking, the We-Vibe couples vibrator allows you and your partner to create a signature vibration playlist that'll cycle while in use. You can even operate the vibrator right from your phone using the We-Vibe app. It also comes with a remote control, just in case the idea of using your phone during sex already has you tempted to check Instagram.

11. For More Anal Pleasure, Use A Prostate Vibrator

Prostate Vibrator, $13, Amazon

If you're a guy looking to upgrade your masturbation methods, or have a male partner who's interested in experimenting with a new toy, a vibrator engineered to stimulate the prostate will do the trick. It's shaped with a curve designed to make contact with the prostate, so that beginners who might have trouble finding it are able to hit the spot. Plus it's battery powered, so you won't have to wait for it to recharge.

12. A Butt Plug That Won't Get Lost Up There

Three Bump Silicone Anal Butt Plug, $9, Amazon

If you want to experiment with butt plugs, but feel kind of weird about sticking something in your butt and leaving it there, a butt plug with a handle is a safe bet for first-timers. This one comes with three bumps in varying sizes, so not only can you be sure that your butt plug won't get lost in the ether, but you can play around with different fits, until you find the right one.

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