The first time you had an orgasm story is probably far better than the first time you had sex story. And TBH, they hardly ever overlap. In fact, it's quite possible your first orgasm wasn't with another person at all, but from masturbation.
But however it came about, it was glorious, terrifying, and overall — well — orgasmic. The truth is, nothing really compares to that first time. I'll admit that I started the process a little early. In fact, the first time I started giving myself orgasms, I'm pretty sure I wasn't much past first grade. I had no idea what was happening, or what an orgasm even was — but I knew I liked what was happening. And before I knew it, my mom wanted to know why I was locking my door so much.
You can't help it! Women are sexual beings, and when something feels good, we want it to happen again. And again. And again. Everyone has a story of the first time they reached this heavenly feeling, and it's time to let them out. Check out these tales from women here to regale you with their first orgasm stories.
Spoiler alert: they haven't stopped having them since.
1. Kristen, 28
Well, it was definitely self-induced! [Laughs] And the thing is, I didn't know it was actually an orgasm until years later. I had no idea what it was — I used to call it 'The Feeling.' The first memory is a little hazy, but sometime in my adolescence / pre-teen years, I remember discovering it felt good when I put my mother's back massager on my vagina. Really good. It wasn't until a sex education class in high school when it clicked I was giving myself an orgasm... and I remember feeling shocked by that! That's what I was doing? Then I remember thinking, well if that's what sex feels like, it's going to be hard to wait to have it. The first time I had sex of course felt nothing like that.
2. Stephanie, 32
The first one I had from anther person was in the back of my car — I know, classy — and it was when my boyfriend was fingering me. I remember thinking, holy $%&* this is actually going to happen. It was the first time I let myself completely let go, and just let him take over. I tried not to think about how long it was taking, or the fact I was fully sweating because the windows were up. I was lying with my head in his lap, and his hand was working over me. And when the first wave of the orgasm started to hit, I had never felt anything more euphoric — because I was out of control, which made it last even longer. At one point I put a towel over my face because I was insecure about how scrunched up my face probably was.
3. Lacey, 29
The first time I had one from sex, it borderline scared me. I was on top, and all of a sudden I felt really hot and tingly all over... and all of a sudden I felt an overwhelming urge to lie down and not move a muscle. And then I was like... wait, did I just have a sex orgasm?
4. Christie, 26
I'm pretty sure the first time I had an orgasm wasn't even on purpose. I had a trundle bed, and my friend and I were pretending what it would be like to make out with a boy. I was on top of the bed, but was sorta grinding against one of the posts, and the more I kept doing that the better it felt. I didn't' tell my friend, because even then — and I was probably only 9 or so — I knew something was wrong about that. But then after that, I started humping my bed. A lot.
5. Heather, 35
My first experience was very American Pie-esque. Not the pie masturbating scene, but it happened when my boyfriend went down on me. I don't think he had a book down there like in the movie, but it did feel like he was writing the alphabet with his tongue. And it worked, because I finally reached the Big O. I remember telling my friends it felt like a bunch of little bombs were going off down there... until one big glorious one set off. I still remember them looking at me like I was crazy.
6. Beth, 24
I had seen on a movie that using that removable shower head made you scream in delight. Took me a while to get it —but turns out, not everything in the movies is fake.
7. Crystal, 25
Well, it was definitely from me! Most of them still are, if I'm being honest. But let's talk about my first one with another person, and that was a girl I was experimenting with in college. What started out as a threesome turned into one girl and I exploring each other's erogenous zones. And I don't know if I was just less intimidated, or less insecure, but I was able to just let go and relax when she went down on me and it was actually the first time I was able to reach orgasm with another person — which proves it really is all mental.
8. Sadie, 36
I honestly thought it just wasn't in the cards for me. I had boyfriends finger me, go down on me, and it just never happened. But a lot of it is insecurity when you're younger, and there was one time when m boyfriend was massaging my clit I felt my body heat up, and my heart accelerate. I had never had an orgasm but I knew something was happening. I was too shy to tell him to keep doing what he was doing, so eventually he stopped. But when I got home, I was so aroused, I continued the motions he was doing — and finally, I reached climax... a couple of times, actually. I fell into a blissful sleep after that. [Laughs]
9. Tory, 27
I was around 9-10 or so, and discovered it the same way most people do: rubbing myself in that area felt just plain good. So then I started doing it more, and more, until I realized if I did it enough in the right, circular way it would feel REALLY good all over I remember thinking I had just discovered something no one knew about, so I immediately told my best friend. Because that's what you do when you're 10! Then she did it. And we would talk about it — like we were in on this incredible secret together. But the secret was, we just discovered what the big O actually was.
10. Leslie, 23
I used the remote control. I literally rubbed it on my clit feverishly until I spiraled into an incredible orgasm. I still use the remote sometimes.... works like a charm.
11. Melanie, 31
My first G-spot orgasm was completely strange, because I remember feeling like I was going to pee the entire time. But I still didn't want whatever was happening to stop. My stomach was tightening, and I was sweating, and felt that if I let go I was going to pee everywhere. I was rubbing my own fingers along my clit (and in case I had to actually hold back pee). I wasn't even sure what the hell happened. But I liked it.
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