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7 Moves That Make You Feel Like Commander-In-Chief

by Lea Rose Emery

Election night is here, so it's only fitting that there are some amazing, women in charge sex positions to go with it. I can't think of any better way to show your support for Hillary Clinton besides, you know, voting for her. But once you do that, make sure you get out there and have some amazing, women-empowering sex. After all this 2016 election stress, you totally deserve it.

These are positions that are all about you — ones that leave room for nipple play, for clitoris stimulation, and even a vibrator. Those sex positions where you're so in control you'll feel like the commander-in-chief. Positions that scream empowerment. Even if it's not your usual thing, it can be a lot of fun to take control in the bedroom once in a while. Even if you're not used to power play or being in control, being the more dominant one even for a single sex session can be eye-opening. It's not all about whips and blindfolds (although if that's your thing, go for it!), it can be a lot more nuanced than that. Sometimes being control is just about positions, rhythm, and whose needs are being focused on.

So here are the best positions to celebrate women in charge. Because if there's any day to try them, it's today:

1. Weak In The Knees

How To Do It: I mean, you basically just get on and enjoy. While your partner lays on their back, you straddle their head and slowly lower yourself down. You may want to use the wall to brace yourself, because there are going to be a lot of sensations.

Why It's All About You: You're totally in charge. You can raise or lower yourself to decide the pressure, then just enjoy the tongue, the fingers, the toys — whatever you feel like. It's really all about you.

2. Sitting

How To Do It: This is as hot as the first position, but easier to hold if you typically need some time to reach orgasm. You sit on the edge of the bed or sofa while your partner kneels in front of you. Then just spread your legs and enjoy it.

Why It's All About You: Someone is literally kneeling to you to give you pleasure. Can you imagine anything more empowering? Maybe the clit and G-spot access, the room for toys, the feeling of being worshiped — it's all there.

3. In A Chair

How To Do It: The perfect position post-striptease. Sit your partner down in a chair and when you're ready slowly lower yourself onto your partner's lap.

Why It's All About You: Bumping? Grinding? Bouncing? It's all up to you. And you've got the intensity of face-to-face contact, so you can feel totally in control and in the moment.

4. Cowgirl

How To Do It: While your partner lies on their back, you straddle them and lower yourself onto them. You can pitch yourself forward or back, whatever's more comfortable. You can grind, bounce, play with your nipples or clit — literally anything you can think of.

Why It's All About You: I mean, it's the ultimate lady-in-charge position. You're the commander-in-chief and your partner just gets to enjoy the incredible view.

5. Doggy With Vibrator

How To Do It: It's traditional doggy with you on all fours, but with an added twist. Get your favorite toy and give yourself some clit stimulation — or give it to them to do for you.

Why It's All About You: Just because it's a typically male-dominated position doesn't mean you can't take control — or try it with a female partner. By giving yourself a vibrator, you make sure that you're doing you — tending to all of your needs and having a damn good time.

6. Reverse Cowgirl

How To Do It: You straddle partner facing their feet while you slowly lower down. Make sure they're comfortable, then enjoy just going for it while they get an incredible view of your ass — and you focus on playing with yourself.

Why It's All About You: Because it's the only position where I've ever felt like a porn star. And you can too.

7. Lotus

How To Do It: Your partner sits cross-legged and you basically sit on top of them. Lower yourself down slowly, then wrap your legs and arms around them. It can be a tough angle, so don't be afraid to try lube.

Why It's All About You: Because after a long round of in-charge positions, in this position you can relax while still being on top. You can grind slowly, have eye contact or dirty talk, and still feel like the leader of the free world.

Now, go take charge!

Images: Caroline Wurtzel/Bustle