My best friend broke up with her partner of five years last Fall. While she was going through a particularly rough time this summer, I was dealing with some stuff in my own relationship and her support during that meant a lot to me. So I did what any self-respecting sex writer would do: I sent her the Rebound Box from my favorite sex toy company, Unbound. She’s also the person who was with me when I bought my first sex toy, so buying a sex toy box for her was perfectly in line with our history — and she loved it.
And we’re definitely not alone in our habit of buying sex toys for and with each other: According to a study done by the high-end sex toy company LELO, 65 percent of women age 35 and younger get their first sex toy as a gift from a friend. Whether it’s their first toy or their 300th, this upcoming holiday season is the perfect time to show your sex positivity and buy your bestie a sex toy.
But all sex toys are not created equal — and everyone has different interests. With that in mind, here's a list of nine sex toys that you can buy for your best friend for the holidays. Enjoy!
1. For The Sex-Positive Fashionista
I love the Vesper by Crave and have been singing its praises since it launched. This sleek vibrator has multiple speeds, is USB-charged, and can be worn on a chain as a necklace. It comes in three different types of metal, and you can even include a personalized message on it! It’s seriously the best and any best friend would be thrilled to receive it.
2. For The Beginner
If your BFF is new to the self-pleasure thing, send her the Solo Beginner’s Box from Unbound. This cute little package comes with everything she’ll need to get going: a Minna Limon vibrator, Hanky Panky crotchless thong, Good Clean Love personal lubricant, Afterglow tissues, a subscription to feminist pornographer Erika Lust’s XCONFESSIONS series, and an Unbound swag bag to keep it all in.
3. For The Party Girl
Whether she’s getting down in a club or chatting it up in a bar, your BFF definitely likes to party. Help her get lucky when she goes out with another box from Unbound — the Girls Night Out. This box comes with a Vesper, Bijoux oral lip gloss, body and hair oil, a tasty lollipop, an Unbound body chain, Sir Richards condoms, and Before During and After mints.
4. For The Traditionalist
The Hitachi Magic Wand is a classic for a reason — it gets the job done. If your bestie is a traditionalist, get her the tried and true classic vibrator that will knock her socks off.
5. For The Kinkster
Body harnesses are a great gift for your friend who’s a not-so-secret kinkster. Some — like this one from Etsy seller ViragoShop — can be worn in public as a fashion accessory that those in the know will understand but might fly over the heads of vanilla onlookers.
6. For The One Who’s Into Butt Stuff
Not only will the Icicles Daisy Plug give your best friends who’s into the booty a great sensation, it’s also super cute! Perfect bestie gift.
7. For The One In An LTR
If your best friend has a vagina and is in a long-term relationship, the Eva is a great hands-free couples toy that doesn’t require any straps or remotes to work. Instead, it sits right inside the labia (of a lot of people — all labias are different and some might need a helping hand) and can be used during partnered sex or solo play.
8. For The Fitness Fanatic
You know that friend that’s all about keeping fit? Well, now she can keep her vagina fit too! Gift her a pair of ben wa balls, which not only help build arousal as she wears them but also helps strengthen the PC muscles too.