I'm not a deeply religious person (I know, George Michael, I gotta have faith, faith, faith). I was, however, raised in mixed-faith household. I grew up with one Catholic and one Jewish parent, which I lovingly refer to as being a "Cashew." To be Bat Mitzvah-ed or to be Confirmed: that is the question! Children of Catholic and Jewish parents may think we have plenty to kvetch about, but as it turns out, there are actually lots of us who celebrated Chrismukkah before The O.C. made it a pop culture phenomenon — it even turns out Indiana Jones himself, Harrison Ford, is also in the Cashew fold.
My own personal blend of Cashew-ism is one part Catholic mom and one part Jewish dad. Mix together with a dash of Yiddish and a fuzzy knowledge of the Old and New Testaments and there you have it: I’ve got the sunburn-prone skin of the English Catholic heritage, and the full-blown Jew-fro of my dad’s side of the family. Lucky me!
The flavorful life of Cashews is one filled with as many loud family gatherings as it is with guilt. My fellow Cashews, you are not alone! But there are some things only we can understand. Things like...
One religion makes you feel guilty about everything in the afterlife...
...and the other just makes you feel guilty all of the time
You guess which is which.
During Winter, your mantlepiece is decorated with both nativity scenes and menorahs
You also probably have a christmas ornament in the shape of a dreidel.
and sorry, but it is an undeniable fact that Christmas is better
Not even Purim's costumes and hamentaschen can compare.
If you were from a town without many jews, you became the representative for all things jewish
Get ready to explain Passover in front of your classroom K-12, y’all.
though you’ve given up on trying to explain why Hanukkah actually ISN’T the highest of holy days
Seriously guys, it's true.
If you went to CCD, you probably dropped out after Confirmation
You've consumed both the blood of Christ and post-service Manischewitz...
...at far, FAR too young of an age.
and you know that in the flavorless food world, Matzoh reigns over "The Body of Christ" wafers
You know the difference between gelt and guilt
And your entire life is plagued with A LOT of it. Have I mentioned the guilt thing?
You cling to your Jewish identity, mostly for the humor
Two words: Mel. Brooks.
You watched The Ten Commandments A LOT as a kid
spring means both this
Sometimes consumed in the very same week.
Fasting on Yom Kippur? Giving up something for Lent?
THE HANGER IS TOO REAL.
You know the two different ways to say "Amen"
Ah-men vs. Ah-mayn.
The difference between your extended family gatherings is night and day
Unless you’re Italian, then it’s essentially the same.
You get disappointed when there isn’t a real bagel spread BEFORE the meal
This travesty would ONLY happen on the Catholic side of the family.
...And when there isn’t a chocolate egg cake after Passover seder
Where's the cake?!
you know the frustration of being told you’re not actually Catholic or you’re not actually Jewish
It doesn't JUST depend on what religion your mother is.
but you're proud of your family
and your identity
Cultural identity people, GET WITH IT.
Oy vey, Amen.
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