42 Sexy Gift Ideas for Your Boyfriend, Girlfriend, Friends, and Even Yourself

Gift guides are a dime a dozen at this time of the year, and the problem is that so many of them are incredibly boring. They’re filled with same gimmicky gifts that you just know are going to wind up sitting unopened, being regifted, or getting tossed out with the tinsel. Your boyfriend doesn’t need another pair of socks. Your best friend doesn’t need another coffee mug. No one needs those damn whiskey rocks. Why not try something new this year, and spice up your holiday gift giving with sexy presents that will bring real and lasting pleasure to your loved ones? Who says the holidays have to be G-rated?

Giving a sexy gift is really not that strange if you think about it. We’re all so crazed, stressed, depressed, and anxious around this time of the year, that we could all benefit from slowing down, getting more in touch with our bodies, and spending quality alone time with our partners. A potential orgasm is just the icing on the cake.

This gift guide is filled with flirty, sensual, arousing, and downright hot gifts for the most important people on your list. And don’t worry — it’s not all just vibrators. I have suggested a couple of my favorite sex toys, but there are also plenty of gifts to sneakily introduce the idea of pleasure and enjoyment. Here are my picks for the sexiest gifts for girlfriends, boyfriends, friends, and even, yourself.

For Your Girlfriend Who Loves Lingerie

For Your Girlfriend Who Loves Lingerie

Or try these adorable shorties, also by Eberjey.

India Shortie, $41, Amazon

For Your Girlfriend Who Loves Lingerie

Gift her a gorgeous chemise, like this one from Elle Macpherson Intimates.

Elle Macpherson Intimates, $34, Amazon

For Your Friend Who's Never Had an Orgasm

Has your BFF been open with you about the fact that she has never been able to orgasm? Be her orgasm cheerleader by getting her one of my favorite toys for women, the Minna Life Limon.

Minna Life Limon, $119, Amazon

For Your Best Guy Friend

You may not be sleeping with them, but why not invest in helping your guy friends become considerate and skillful in the sack? One of my favorite book recommendations is She Comes First by Ian Kerner. This should be required reading for every straight man.

She Comes First, $15, Amazon

For Your Best Guy Friend

If he’s gay, take a peek at the Warwick Rowers 2016 calendar. The pictures are hot, and 10 percent of the proceeds go to their charity Sport Allies, which combats “bullying, homophobia, and low self-esteem” in the gay community.

Warwick Rowers 2016 Calendar, $35, Amazon

For Your Roommate Who's Always Hooking Up

This massage oil candle takes care of two things at once.

LELO Massage Candle , $30, Amazon

For Your Best Guy Friend

Another great idea is a condom sampler from Lucky Bloke. This company is out to change the world by making condoms more comfortable and pleasurable.

Condom Sampler, $16, Amazon

For Your Roommate Who's Always Hooking Up

For Your Friend Who's Never Had an Orgasm

Or a PC exerciser like the Elvie Kegel Exerciser.

Elvie Kegel Exerciser, $199, Amazon

For Your Roommate Who's Always Hooking Up

Bonk , a hilarious book about sex research by Mary Roach, is another relatively innocent choice.

Bonk, $9, Amazon

For Your Longterm Love

There are also tons of fun bondage accessories you can use together, like these sophisticated handcuffs from Crave.

Leather cuffs, $62, Amazon

For Your Longterm Love

Perhaps the most obvious X-rated gift option is a vibrator that you can use together. Take a look at the We-Vibe 4.

We-Vibe 4, $93, Amazon

For Your Longterm Love

And check out this gorgeous cuff from Bijoux Indiscrets.

Désir Métallique Gold Metallic Mesh Handcuffs, $13, Amazon

For Your Longterm Love

For Your Longterm Love

This Sportsheet restraint system offers a world of possibilities.

The Original Sportsheet, Starting at $100, Amazon

For Your Longterm Love

Another option is to look into sexual position enhancers. The Liberator is an old classic (and can I get a hell-yeah for the hot curvy models on their website?).

Liberator Ramp, $51, Amazon

For Your Longterm Love

Stuff their stocking with the Nerve Position A Day Playbook to help you both think of more ways to use these new purchases!

Nerve Position A Day Playbook, $11, Amazon

For Yourself

You may also want to consider investing in high-quality lube to make masturbation and sex more enjoyable.

Pjur Eros Bodyglide , $14, Amazon

For Yourself

For a fresh take on the vibrator, check out the Crave Vesper, which doubles as minimalist jewelry.

Crave Vesper, $79, Amazon

For Your Girlfriend Who Loves Lingerie

If you’re not sure what kind of lingerie she’s into, get her a gift card to True and Co. The company has a unique way of getting your measurements, and is fanatical about proper fit.

Gift Card, TrueAndCo

For Your Friend Who's Never Had an Orgasm

For Your Single and Ready-to-Mingle Bestie

Want your gift to include some quality time together? Sign both of you up for a confidence-boosting striptease class.

Striptease class, StripXpertease

For Your Single and Ready-to-Mingle Bestie

For Your Single and Ready-to-Mingle Bestie

If you have a group of friends, have everyone come along to a private workshop at Babeland.

Private workshop, Babeland

For Your Single and Ready-to-Mingle Bestie

Or sign the crew up for an aphrodisiac cooking class.

Sex On The Table Cooking Class , $135, ChefFedNY

For Your Roommate Who's Always Hooking Up

If you want to try something a little more risque, you can get them an inexpensive cock ring vibrator.

Tenga Vi-Bo Cock Ring , $20, Amazon

For Your Mom (Yes, Your Mom)

You don’t need to buy mom a vibrator to help her get in touch with her sensual side. Massage oil is great gift to give. Check out this beautiful set by Mullein and Sparrow.

Mullein and Sparrow, $18, Etsy

For Your Mom (Yes, Your Mom)

Aziz Light Apothecary also has some great options.

Massage Oil, $16, Etsy.com

For Your Mom (Yes, Your Mom)

Bath soaks are another delightfully relaxing option. Herbivore Botanicals has an incredible Coconut Milk soak. There’s also a Cyprus Mint variety.

Coconut Milk Bath Soak, $18, Urban Outfitters

For Your Mom (Yes, Your Mom)

Bundle your picks with a teakwood and tobacco candle for the ultimate sensual indulgence.

Candle no. 4: Teakwood and Tobacco, $20, Urban Outfiters

For Your Longterm Love

The Tor II is a vibrating cock ring that provides pleasure for both partners.

Babeland Tor II , $149, Babeland

For Your Longterm Love

The Love Bumper also offers some interesting sex furniture options.

Iceberg Love Bumper, $84, LoveBumper

For Your Longterm Love

For a real splurge, take a gander at the Revel Essence chair, specifically and meticulously designed to make sex more intimate and creative.

Revel Essence Chair, $2,700, RevelFurniture

For Your Longterm Love

Etsy is a great source for hilarious and naughty holiday greeting cards. Give your guy a hint at the presents that are in store for them with this card or this one. Want a super easy gift idea? In your card, write that you’ll grant them one sexual wish as a gift. If you’re on a budget, tell them you’ll perform a striptease, and include a CD of your favorite sexy songs.

Holiday card , $4, Etsy

For Your Longterm Love

Get your partner a subscription to a premium porn site that the two of you can enjoy together. X-art tends to be a favorite among my female clientele because of their attractive models and nice lighting. If you want porn that’s feminist and sex-positive, check out Bright Desire, which showcases real couples.

Bright Desire Membership, $20/month, Bright Desire

For Your Longterm Love

Maybe I’m biased here, but a sex therapy session can be a really fun gift to give. Tell your therapist beforehand that you want to use the session to get ideas for new positions, explore your sexual boundaries, or talk about how to act out a fantasy.

Sex Therapy Session, Starting at $175, VM Therapy

For Yourself

So is this Lola Lace bra set.

Lola Lace Bra Set , $11, Asos

For Yourself

Check out my women’s pleasure program, designed to help busy modern women infuse more relaxation, confidence, and pleasure into daily life!

The Pleasure Principles, $397, VM T herapy

For Yourself

To go along with your photo shoot, try splurging on some sexy new lingerie. This Asos getup is a showstopper.

ASOS Millie Caged Lace & Velvet Underwire Bra, $10, Asos

See also: ASOS Becca Lace Strappy Moulded Underwire Bra, $33, Asos

For Yourself

Don’t forget to treat yourself this holiday season!

One of my favorite ideas is to book a boudoir photography session. It’s a great way to boost your self-esteem and feel confident in your own skin.

Boudoir Photography Session, Starting at $599, BoudoirByLily

For Yourself

Or make this the year that you finally learn how to have an orgasm, with my online orgasm school!

Finishing School, $99-$599, VM T herapy