12 Bethenny Frankel Quotes About Love, Because The 'Real Housewives Of New York' Star Knows Her Stuff

Bethenny Frankel has gotten quite a bit of flack for never being a housewife during her time on the show Real Housewives of New York City. Yep, Bethenny Frankel was never actually married on RHONY, but she still deserved her spot. Yes, Frankel is single (and was single during her first go 'round on the show), but she has been through a lot over the years when it comes to relationships and viewers appreciate hearing all about it.

Frankel has voiced her experiences and how she has felt navigating the dating world. Not everything she has said is profound, but she has always kept it real. Cilck through for 12 quotes from the RHONY star on love and relationships.

On Communication

During a 2012 interview with People , Frankel explained the importance of communication when she said, “I have to be in a relationship where I can say what I feel even it’s wrong so we can work through it.” The girl has a point. No relationship is perfect, but the ability to express your problems is key to moving past them.


On Being Hard On Herself

Frankel may be a successful business woman and reality star, but even she can be tough on herself just like anyone else. In a 2012 People interview, she admitted, “I’ve often thought if I didn’t make my marriage work, I would have failed at my one true shot at happiness.”

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On Not Always Putting Work First

I could go on and on about Frankel’s business ventures, but there is more to her than that. In fact, she herself confessed that she craves more than work in an episode of her now defunct television series Bethenny Ever After, saying, “My business doesn’t keep me warm at night.”

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On Having To Work At Love

Love is not going to magically work itself out. This is something that the reality star has learned the hard way. In a 2012 interview with People , Frankel explained, “You have to work for everything. Marriage should not be any different.”

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On Not Quitting On A Marriage

Frankel has been caught up in a messy divorce process and talked openly about how she feels in a 2015 interview with Andy Cohen on Watch What Happens Live. Frankel used a classic song as a metaphor: ”Marriage is the Hotel California. You can check out any time but you can never leave.” Well, that is not a lighthearted comparison.

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On Not Always Knowing What She Wants

In a 2015 interview with Andy Cohen, Frankel was very candid about her struggle with navigating the dating scene. She said, “I don’t know what I’m looking for, and I don’t know if I’m looking for anything. I think the kind of guy that I would need to be with has to be able to handle me, which is a tall order.”

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On Needing To Believe There Is Life After Love

Frankel told Andy Cohen, “I believe in love, I believe in marriage. I just don’t believe in legal marriage for myself… And I do believe in life after love.”

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On Needing To Show Her True Self

The entrepreneur has explained that there is more to dating and relationships than giving a good impression. When it comes down to it you just need to be yourself. In a 2012 Us Weekly interview, she stated,You cannot show people only the petals and not the thorns. It’s not fair to them.” Very well said.

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On Not Setting Impossible Standards

In her book A Place of Yes , she said something very simple, yet profound: “The question isn’t ‘Is he normal?’ or ‘Are you normal?’ but ‘What is normal for us?” She makes a great point. We cannot compare ourselves or our relationships to some vague standard, you just have to figure out what is right along the way.

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On Taking Care Of Herself First

It is great to be there for your partner, but Frankel believes in taking care of yourself first. She explained this in A Place of Yes , writing, “You have to give yourself a break. You can’t come together with anyone else if you can’t even get yourself together.”

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On Recognizing Your Own Patterns & Habits

In a 2011 interview with The Hollywood Reporter, she recognized her own romantic tendencies when she said, ”It’s my nature to run from relationships, because I have never seen a good one.”

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On Not Knowing Where You'll Find Love

During a 2013 interview with Ellen DeGeneres, Frankel had an optimistic post-divorce outlook when she said, “Love is everywhere.” And she is right. You never know where you’ll find love.

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