What Does Anal Sex Feel Like For Men? 12 Men Share What It's Really Like To Be Giving Or Receiving
Why do men love anal sex? Every guy I've dated has requested anal at some point, even to the point of begging. This experience seems to be ubiquitous in heterosexual relationships. What's the big deal? Does anal really feel that much better than vaginal sex? Or is it about the feeling of dominance, more than anything else? I decided to find out.
The topic of the male obsession with anal is treated as somewhat of a joke in popular culture. It was even referenced to much controversy in an episode of The Mindy Project , when Mindy's boyfriend Danny attempted anal without her permission and then innocently claimed, "I slipped." (For the record: You and your partner should always talk about anal sex and make sure that you're both on board before kicking things off.)
Since we know how women feel about anal sex, I spoke with 6 gay men and 6 straight men to gain a better understanding of the male prerogative. I found that for gay men, their physical experience of anal sex paralleled that of vaginal sex for women. Their prostate serves as the male pleasure center, much like the clitoris for women.
The men who give anal sex described an emotional as well as physical element to their experience. When speaking to me, they described anal sex as tighter, more slippery, and more pleasurable. Additionally, they described feeling a sense of dominance and control towards their female partners. They tended to view anal sex as a social accomplishment, and their partner as submissive because their partners had "allowed" them to do anal sex. For them, the accomplishment of getting a girl to do anal signified a level of sexual prowess that figured significantly into their confidence. Here are some perspectives on anal sex, from the catchers and the pitchers.
Receiving (Men Having Sex With Men):
1. *Jon, 22:
2. *Dan, 21:
Giving (Men Giving to Women):
7. *Tanner, 20:
8. *James, 23:
9. *Lee, 25:
11. *Jake, 22:
12. *Elli, 26:
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*Names have been changed