Think of this as a starting point. It doesn’t hurt to acknowledge the areas in your life that need healing. According to Shakarian, you can do this by finding a quiet space where you can be alone and uninterrupted. Then, get into a meditative space by breathing in for the count of four, holding for four, and then exhaling for four. Repeating this three times will put you into an “alpha brain wave state,” which is ideal for the ritual.

Then, reflect on where you feel “limited” in your life. This could be in love, friendship, career, health, or spirituality. Afterward, ask yourself if you feel worthy of love.

“Wait and see how your body responds,” Shakarian says. “You may hear a ‘yes’ or ‘no’ in your mind, or you may feel your heart space or other areas of your body contract or open up. If your answer is no, then you are ready to proceed with the exercise.”

While you’re in a meditative state, put a hand over your heart and another over your lower abdomen. Shakarian says crystals can also be placed over these areas as well. Then, ask your spirit team for guidance on why you may have feelings of feeling unworthiness.

“See what comes up,” she says. Let go, don’t force anything, and just listen closely. You may hear an inner voice that says, “Because I never received affection from my parents” or “I’m constantly being compared to my sibling.” Once you “hear” the answer, write that down on a piece of paper and place that under the crystal over your heart. This final detail of this step can help open you up to the healing process.

It’s one thing to hear an inner voice or repeat positive affirmations in your head and it’s another to actually say them out loud. One thing you can do as part of your healing manifestation ritual is to state your intentions out loud. For example, “I am ready to let go of the belief that I am unworthy of love because I never received affection from my parents. But now I’m releasing this from my body, mind, and spirit.” Shakarian says you can tap a crystal as you breathe in and then do rapid “‘ha ha ha’ breaths” on the exhale for 10 seconds. Then, repeat this process three times. “I refer to this as a cleansing breath,” she says.

In order to heal and clear blockages that may be preventing you from manifesting the life you want, it’s important to have self-love and acceptance. One thing you can do to achieve that is to keep a self-appreciation journal handy. Ryan Haddon, spiritual coach and Head of Programming at Sage + Sound, suggests writing down five things you appreciate about yourself daily. This can be anything from the cute outfit you picked out that day to a compliment you gave that made your partner smile.

Your journal will be like “holding up a mirror to the qualities you embody and might take for granted,” Haddon says. “In doing this, we are healing the part of us that usually focuses on not being enough, our lack, or our perfectionism.”

If some self-care is in order, running a purifying bath can help “clear your body and energetic field.” According to Haddon, this is a healing manifestation ritual that not only feels good but can be deeply soothing. You can use magnesium salts and clay to “draw out impurities,” as well as essential oils. “Allow yourself to soak off all that no longer serves you, and create that intention for yourself, so your entire system can recalibrate,” Haddon says.

Lighting an intention candle like the Sanjali Candle, which is infused with palo santo to purify, wild rose to decrease stress, and night blooming jasmine for balance, can help you get into a space where you’re able to meditate and state affirmations. Haddon suggests looking at the flame, putting your hands on your heart, and repeating positive statements. Find an “uplifting phrase that aligns you with the best and highest aspect of yourself,” she says. Keep it short, simple, and sweet so you can easily repeat it during your ritual.

“Any and all of these rituals can remind you of what we can so easily forget: that we are worthy and valuable and that we need to take the time to slow things down to remember to connect to ourselves,” Haddon says. “Going through the motions with a dedicated ritual or practice helps us anchor into the most important relationship we will ever have: the one with ourself.”