For many, if not most, of us, trying to overhaul our lives and change too much at once is rarely successful. You become overwhelmed and end up changing nothing at all. A recent AskReddit thread is of particular help in this matter, as it suggests
small things you can do to improve your quality of life — without doing a complete 180 or trying to change all of your bad habits at once. While the idea of a complete makeover sounds exciting, when it comes to making your life better, one rule of thumb in particular applies: slow and steady wins the race.
The reason why
setting small goals works more often than setting huge ones is because to have the motivation to change our lives, we need momentum; and one way to get the momentum going is to have a few "wins" that will inspire you to keep pushing forward. Look at it the same way we look at exercising: one huge sweat sesh isn't the solution to our problems. Rather, it's the cumulative effect of staying active over time that helps us improve our lives. In her research, Teresa Amabile found that setbacks are the most damaging thing when we're trying to improve our lives, and a powerful daily motivator is small, consistent progress.
So, take the advice of these Redditors, and try making these small changes to improve your overall wellbeing.
Clean Up The Room You're In Before You Leave It
A lot of us have adopted a lackadaisical "I'll do it later" mentality when it comes to keeping our homes clean, especially
if you hate cleaning; but instead of doing it later, how about right now? I'm big on this when it comes to keeping the kitchen clean: as much as I don't want to clear out that sink full of dirty dishes after cooking and eating, I really don't want to walk in here later and see it sitting and staring at me.
Do it and get it over with. Don't underestimate the power of walking into an already-tidy room.
Follow The 5-Minute Rule
At the risk of sounding dramatic, this totally saved my life. You can
make a to-do list the old-fashioned way with pen and paper, or you can do it on your computer or phone. (I personally use Todoist, and I love it!) Says this Redditor, "Every day, make a to do list when you get up of 5 things you want to accomplish that day and do them all. Even if it's to just do 10 pushups or buy the girl you like a cup of coffee. Push yourself to come up with new things. Stuff that challenges you but are also quick to do. Things that make you a better person or improve or positively affect something or someone around you."
Address People By Their Names
These days, there is so much distance between us, both literally and figuratively.
We bury ourselves in our phones as a distraction when we think we have nothing else do to. On the subway, we avoid eye contact and immediately go on the defense when someone utters a word to us. We have "bubbles" marking our personal space; and people who enter them creep us out.
These things aren't necessarily bad; we do them for our own safety and comfort. But we've also isolated ourselves and grown
uncomfortable with the most basic human-to-human interaction. We can help counter this with something as simple as addressing someone by their name — the strongest connection to their identity and individuality. It shows courtesy and respect when you do so, it's a surefire way to get their intention, and — put simply — it can make that person happy: it can be argued that a person's name is their favorite word in the world.
Introduce Yourself To People
On the flip side, you should also offer your own name to people: "Introduce yourself to everyone you interact with. Learn their names and their stories over time," advises one Redditor. Introducing yourself and expanding your circle is rarely a bad thing; and it helps in breaking down the barriers we've built as we've become more comfortable with communicating via Facebook and Instagram.
Help Without Being Asked
Sure, many of us will
offer a helping hand when asked for it; but how often do you help when no one prompts you to? Instead of waiting to be asked, jump into action. It's a small courtesy that shows you're proactive and care about someone's happiness. "Take the initiative to do house chores and basically pick up after my daughter and I without my wife having to tell me to do. My wife and I both are employed so me helping around the house goes a long way improving the quality of our life," shares one Reddit user.
Unplug And Think Every Day
It's safe to assume that
taking a social media detox is something we could all use. We're constantly so hyper-connected that we've probably forgotten what it's like to be alone with our own thoughts. Social media is great, but it can also sabotage your happiness. One Redditor suggests, "Once a day, every day, take ten minutes to just sit and think. No phone. No radio. No computer. No books, magazines, papers. No rush. No other people."
Unplug For An Entire Day
One Redditor took it a step further: instead of just 10 minutes unplugged, they suggest an entire day! "Embrace an 'unplugged' day, where you leave your phone and any/all technology at home and just enjoy the great outdoors."
Spending time outside has been shown to improve both our physical and emotional wellness. And don't forget: there was a time when you easily went a whole day without being attached to your phone — and you were just fine.
We're always rushing. We look for the fastest way to do things because we're impatient and in a hurry; we eat in the car; we need constant entertainment or we get bored. You don't need me to tell you that this isn't the greatest news in the world.
You stand to benefit so much from slowing down and
practicing mindfulness. Being more mindful might be as simple as eating your lunch away from your phone or computer, no distractions. Or you might take a 10-minute break at work and go for a short walk outside, without taking a picture of it for Instagram. Slow down and notice things around you — you'll be happier for it.