When we're unhappy in our relationships, we might find a million flaws with our partners or excuses to leave when the truth is, we'd just rather be alone. The issues you attribute to your partner or relationship could just be signs you want to be single. And you don't actually need any other excuse to end a relationship, because the desire to be free is reason enough.
Some of us ignore this desire because we're scared we'll be even more unhappy single than we were coupled up. "It is interesting how you would rather be unhappy in a relationship than leave a relationship," Rhonda Milrad, LCSW, Founder of online relationship community Relationup, tells Bustle. "And often, you have to reach a high bar of unhappiness before you decide that it is better to be alone than in the relationship. Sometimes, this desire to stay is motivated by a lack of clarity about what you want and, sometimes, it is motivated by a fear of being alone."
People often try to stay in relationships while they're figuring out what they want, but they rarely get clarity this way. "This is often hard to do because you are actively involved in the relationship as you doubting it," says Milrad. That's why breaking up is sometimes the best choice even when it's heartbreaking. Here are some signs you could benefit from spending some time single.