Feeling lonely is a totally natural place to be in— in fact, I don't know anyone who hasn't found themselves struggling with feeling lonely at one time or another. But it's actually a good thing to struggle with. If you can stay single and deal with the loneliness, it's a huge learning opportunity. “It can actually be a time to learn more about oneself and experience the greatest self-growth,” psychotherapist Mary Beth Somich, MA, EdM, LPCA tells Bustle. “Feeling lonely as a result of being single can actually inspire individuals to have new experiences that they would not have put themselves out there for otherwise.”
But far too many people jump into the first relationship they can find as soon as they feel lonely— and it's often not the right realtionship. It's really easy to do, so don't beat yourself up about it. But if you find yourself in a relationship just for the sake of being with someone, it's time to rethink it. Because you deserve to be in a relationship with someone you actually click with— and sometimes you need to go through the harsh learning experience of feeling lonely to find out what you really want.
So how do you know if you're in a relationship just because you're lonely? Here are the signs to look for.