Whether you realize it or not, you've probably been guilty of phone snubbing, aka "phubbing," at some point in your life. But what exactly is phubbing? It's the practice of ignoring someone — whether that's your partner, friend, or family member — in favor of your smartphone. Though it might not sound like the worst of all the bad dating behaviors out there, a recent study by Baylor University found that the way we use (or perhaps overuse) our cell phones might be damaging our romantic relationships.
After researchers conducted an initial survey to identify phone snubbing behaviors, they asked participants in a second survey to measure the prevalence of "pphubbing" (partner phone snubbing) in their romantic relationships. They found that 46 percent of people had been phubbed by their partner, and 22 percent said the phubbing caused conflict in their relationship. So how do you know if you're guilty of chronic phubbing?
"You might be a phubber if time away from your phone, even for a minute or two, results in serious anxiety," Jonathan Bennett, relationship/dating coach and owner of The Popular Man, tells Bustle. "You can’t fully focus on the person talking to you because you’re worrying that you’ll miss a text, Instagram post, or that new person viewing your Snapchat story."
Even though checking your phone at the dinner table might *seem* harmless, over time, that behavior may drive a wedge between you and your partner. Here are six things you need to know about phubbing — even if you aren't a chronic phubber, it's always a good idea to peel your gaze away from your phone and focus on your partner a little more.