Discovering your partner has cheated on you is a disorienting experience, and knowing what to say or do can be confusing. It's helpful to know what to expect when you confront your significant other, especially since there are a number of common things cheaters say when they're caught. Knowing what to expect can help you make the best decision for yourself, and it can also help you look for any red flags when it comes to someone who might be lying or trying to manipulate you.
"The common excuses that cheaters give are intended to minimize the damage to themselves," relationship therapist Rhonda Milrad, LCSW tells Bustle. "Unfortunately, they aren’t initially motivated to minimize the pain to their partners. They chose to cheat to meet their own needs, and they were not concerned with the impact on their partner."
When cheaters are caught, there are a variety of different ways they may react to being confronted with their guilt. "Once they are caught, many don’t want to lose their primary relationship and so they minimize or deny the allegations," says Milrad. "Others are also motivated to manipulate their partner so that they can keep their relationship and continue to be with the other person."
Some partners may show remorse, and may truly want to be forgiven for their mistake. But initially, experts saymany people tend to get defensive when it comes to their actions. Here are seven common things cheaters say when they get caught.