7 Signs Someone Definitely Isn't "The One"

If you're on a never-ending fight to find "The One", chances are you're going to see what you want to see. So many of us want to be in a good, healthy relationship — that's natural. But an obsession with "The One" can lead to some big relationship mistakes, because you're missing the signs. Don't feel bad, so many of us have done it, but no matter how long you've been in a relationship, there's always time to get out of it if you realize it isn't want you want – and go find one that is.

If you realize that someone isn't "The One", don't panic. You can handle it."When you reach a point that you realize they aren't "The One," be courageous and direct," marriage and family therapist Esther Boykin tells Bustle. "The old saying, 'It’s not you …' is actually a good starting point. The truth is that it's neither of you, it's the 'us' that doesn't work."

And how do you realize that it's not working? While every relationship is different, there are some signs that mean it's just not right— for anyone.

So here are seven signs someone definitely isn't "The One", because it's about a lot more than just loving each other: