Part of knowing if you're ready to be in a relationship is being sure that you're getting into a relationship for the right reasons. A relationship should make you happy, rather than just being a placeholder. Because there's nothing wrong with being single — it's really so much better than being in a sh*tty relationship. "I'd rather be single, in a comfortable relationship with myself, than trapped in a dysfunctional, toxic relationship with someone else," certified relationship coach Rosalind Sedacca tells Bustle. "Being single gives me freedom so I don't waste time or energy on a relationship partner who doesn't value me and my attributes. I've given up drama and appreciate my life as it is now."
But even though there are so many good reasons to stay single, people still get into relationships for the wrong reasons. Sometimes it's neediness, loneliness, or a lack of independence — but sometimes it's just straight-up boredom. That's right, people who aren't good at spending time alone can get into relationships simply because there's nothing better to do. And that's not fair on either party — one of you is being used by someone who's not actually interested and the other is missing out on learning how to be content on their own. It's a dangerous game. But how do you know that it's happening?
Here are the signs that you don't actually want to be in a relationship, you're just bored.