You might feel super close to your best friend, and sure, it could just be a platonic relationship. But sometimes deeper feelings do exist, and you may think because of that closeness that maybe, my best friend is my soulmate. And, it can be pretty hard to discover them without a little digging first. A tip: look for the signs you've found The One in your friend, because those subtle clues might really be there. Plus, if you follow your instincts, and make a move, you never know what could happen.
As a certified health coach, I work with clients on following their hearts to their soulmates. When it comes to being hopeful that you found The One, in perhaps the weirdest of all places, it's quite an unexpected surprise and pleasure that holds a heavy weight. And, trusting your gut is also really important, as it can usually steer you in the right direction. If you feel scared to ruin your friendship, or you're unsure your friend feels the same way about you, it's totally normal to have those reservations. Yet, fight the tendency to withdraw and go after it! Still, there's no harm in testing the waters first, and seeing if you can gauge where your friend is at. If he or she seems to want something totally platonic, and isn't giving you any flirtatious signs, it might not work out. Here are seven little clues that your BFF might just be the one for you, after all.
1. You Trust Each Other Completely
If there's a definitive trust there, it might be that you and your friend are meant to be together in the future. Besides, step one of a good relationship is already there. A good indicator? "[W]hen told something in confidence, you both do not share the information with anyone," Kimberly Hershenson, LMSW tells Bustle. "It is difficult to be vulnerable and share problems with others," Hershenson says, so this can be a huge sign if you two are both able to confide in one another.
2. Your Friend Is Your Biggest Cheerleader
If you and your friend are totally supportive and each other's biggest fan, it could mean you're soulmates. "[Y]our friend is your cheerleader and you want to be there for them as well," says Hershenson. "You may even go out of each others’ way to show how much you each care."
3. There's A Clear Attraction
If you catch yourself (and your BFF) flirting and being playful or touchy in little ways, it could mean there's more than just a friendship there. "[I]f you are physically attracted to each other this is a major sign this is more than a friendship," says Hershenson. So, if you start looking at your friend a different way, and they start looking back, there could be a romantic connection.
4. You Just "Get" Each Other
Sometimes it doesn't make sense or you can't easily describe the feeling, but you just understand your friend for who they are and totally accept that. (And visa versa.) "If you know what the other person is thinking or just understand each other like no one else this may be a leading toward a relationship," says Hershenson.
5. Your Friend Is The First One You Share News With
If your BFF is the first person you call or share news with, it could mean they are your soulmate. "They are the first person you want to talk to when something bad or something good happens," Christie Tcharkhoutian, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Professional Matchmaker with Three Day Rule in Los Angeles tells Bustle. "If your friend is the first person you turn to in the important moments in life, it indicates that your closeness and their role in your life is substantial and worth exploring."
6. You Ask For Their Opinions For Big Matters
If you're asking your friend for feedback on big, life changing decisions, or they are a factor in your decision, it could mean that that relationship is super powerful. If so, it could be a sign that they are your soulmate. "If you trust and value the advice of your friend, it may mean that their opinions are valuable to you and alter the course of your life," says Tcharkhoutian.
7. You'd Rather Be With Them Than Anyone Else
If you want to spend all your time with your friend, over other friendships, family, or even just solo time, it could mean that they are meant to be your partner down the road. "When the presence of another person is as comforting and re-energizing to you as the time you spend with yourself, that means that you can truly be yourself with your friend, which is a key indicator that someone is deserving of being your life partner," says Tcharkhoutian.
If you have any of these things in common with your friend, it could mean that BFF should become your significant other. Soulmates might really exist, so if you think it's possible, go after it and see what happens!