Dating can feel frustrating, especially when you want a serious relationship and the people you end up with just seem to want to have some fun. If you want to stop getting stuck in hookup situations, there are a few things you may be able to do to move closer toward commitment. That doesn't mean you shouldn't have your fun — nothing wrong with just enjoying casual, consensual sex — but if you're looking for something more long-term and keep finding yourself in short-term hookups, there are a few things experts suggest can help.
"There are a couple of reasons you need to act differently when looking to be in a relationship versus hooking up," Dr. Sue Mandel, psychologist and dating coach for women, tells Bustle. "First, our intentions are different with each, and we need to be clear about it so that the signals we’re giving match what we’re wanting. Secondly, the expectations are different, and we need to pay attention to, and honor, what we really need and want."
It's important to keep in mind that thereare no set rules when it comes to dating — sometimes doing things your way can lead to a relationship, and sometimes someone who was just a one night-stand ends up being your partner. However, if you're feeling like you're only meeting partners who just want to hookup when you want something more, expert opinion suggests that there are certain habits that may be getting in the way of what you're looking for.