Knowing what to talk about on a first date can be nerve-wracking. Ideally, you both click and the conversation flows easily, but sometimes you have to have more of a plan of attack — and asking the right questions can make all the difference.
"Don’t try to impress your date with [wild] stories and facts about yourself; this will almost always backfire," online dating consultant Stacy Karyn tells Bustle. "You should rather learn how to engage, listen, and genuinely respond to your date. This will make them feel valued and excited to see you again."
But what kind of questions can you ask? Well, even on a first date you may be able to go deeper than you would think. Don't shy away from personal or unusual questions, because those should actually be exactly what you're asking. "Asking questions that are more personal will not only get you the answers you need but will also make your date different than most dates [they've] been on," Anna Morgenstern, a dating and relationship coach in NYC, tells Bustle. "[They'll] feel more connected to you because you asked questions to really get to know [them], rather than just getting [their] stats. You'll build a connection much quicker if you come prepared with questions that are important to you."
So here are some unexpected questions you should try on your first date — because it's best to get some things out on the open, right from the get-go.