"Should we break up?" It's a question that most of us get to at one point or another. You're in a relationship that is less-than-perfect, but you don't know if it's actually at a point where you need to end it. It's a tough balance, because you don't want to waste your time on a bad relationship— but you don't want to be too hasty either.
Sometimes, it's obvious. "Your partner is not reliable, doesn't show up, doesn't keep promises," Tina B. Tessina, aka Dr. Romance, psychotherapist and author of How to Be Happy Partners: Working it out Together, tells Bustle. "Your partner won't work with you to solve problems or get things done [or] has too many emotional outbursts, throws hissy fits or temper tantrums when something goes wrong." In that case, it's really clear you need to breakup. But what if the problems are more subtle? Or what if you're still in the process of getting to know each other and finding the little things that bug you because the honeymoon period is over? It's really tough to know when relationships problems are big enough to say goodbye.
But don't panic just because suddenly things have left the honeymoon phase. Here are seven wrong reasons to breakup— because you owe your relationship a better shot than that.