When you're unhappy in a relationship, you may start pondering the big question: "Should we break up?" It should be obvious, knowing whether or not you should be with someone, but it can be difficult to tell if you're just unhappy at the moment or if your issues are worth breaking up over.
Part of the problem is that, especially if you've been together for a while, you feel like you need a really good reason to breakup. Even if you're unhappy — and have been for a while — it doesn't always feel like enough. I mean, sometimes it's obvious. "Your partner is not reliable, doesn't show up, doesn't keep promises," Tina B. Tessina, aka Dr. Romance, psychotherapist and author of How to Be Happy Partners: Working it out Together, tells Bustle. "Your partner won't work with you to solve problems or get things done [or] has too many emotional outbursts, throws hissy fits or temper tantrums when something goes wrong." And obviously in cases where there is abuse, manipulation, or disrespect, you should definitely end the relationship. But sometimes, the problems are not so clearly breakup-worthy.
The important thing to remember is that sometimes, even without one huge reason, it's totally OK to break up. Here are some things that are absolutely good reasons to end a relationship: