8 Sex Toys That Longterm Couples Swear By To Make Intimacy Way More Fun
It takes a lot of things to make a relationship work. Communication, compassion, and compromise are all biggies, but there's one topic that you don't often hear in your standard romantic conversation: the best sex toys for couples that can help increase intimacy and pleasure for both of you simultaneously.
Granted, there's no magic pill that makes things seamless all of the time, but research has shown that a happy, satisfied sex life filled with excitement and adventure helps you to maintain intimacy in your relationship, which bleeds through into interactions that take place outside the bedroom — and that means the aforementioned properties of a healthy relationship can happen more effortlessly on their own. Yeah, there might be a bit of an intimidation factor in the beginning, but utilizing sex toys during sex with your partner has been shown to decrease pressure, increase pleasure, add excitement without venturing outside the relationship, and ensure that both parties are more satisfied.
For this reason, I got in touch with a few lovely people who believed so much in their personal couples sex toy, they decided to share it with the world. Here are a few of their direct recommendations, so if you're thinking of getting one yourself, you've got a real and genuine customer review to help you with your decision.
1. A Toy With Vibrations That You Can Both Feel
"My guy likes a little vibration as much as I do, so this couple toy is perfect for us!" says Debra about the LuLu #4 wireless therapeutic massager, which has tons of powerful settings and a flexible build to suit anyone.
"I can use it on my own when I want a little clit and G-spot stimulation, but we can also use it together so he can feel the vibrations on his shaft when he's inside me," praises Debra. "It also comes with a remote control, so if I'm feeling particularly frisky, I let him control it."
2. Looking For Variety? Pass The Control To Your Partner
"My boyfriend of four years just got me a remote-controlled vibrator and we're really getting a kick out of it," says Meghan. "The foreplay lasts all night and it makes things really exciting because no one knows I'm wearing it except him. I give him the remote control and he surprises me until we get home."
The OhMiBod blueMotion remote vibrator uses your smartphone as the remote, and it can be used in the same room or long distance with the upgraded wifi-enabled app. Use preset vibration patterns or create your own, and it's rechargeable, too, so you won't have to pick up batteries all the time.
3. Stamina, Stimulation, & Vibration
"A vibrating cock ring was one of the first toys we ever used in our relationship," says Sophie Van Arden. She adds, "The fact that they came (ha!) in funny shapes and we could laugh about them took the edge off a little and made using a toy for the first time much more enjoyable."
Van Arden appreciates the clitoral stimulation while her boyfriend is happy with the vibration as well as the increased stamina. "Another plus? These toys are cheap." This one, called the Big O Multi-Stage vibrating penis ring, is a bestseller because it's waterproof, stretchy, textured, and has nine different vibrational patterns to please both of you.
4. A Helpful Tool For Reaching Orgasm With A Partner
"My favorite toy to use with a partner is a classic: the Hitachi Magic Wand," says Rebecca. "Yes, it needs to be plugged in, and yes, it sounds like a buzzsaw when it's in use, but no other vibrator I've tried has worked as well to get me off! I have trouble getting to orgasm with a partner, but the Magic Wand solves that problem. Whether I'm using it on myself or my partner is using it on me, we both have great time with it." And this pick even comes with a speed controller!
5. Beautiful, Reliable, & A Great Investment
"My favorite toy for using with a partner is the Mona 2 from Lelo," says Amanda. "I am unable to orgasm from vaginal sex, so I like being able to orgasm when my partner does by using a vibrator for clitoral stimulation. The Mona 2 is beautiful, reliable, and has been my best investment to help develop intimacy with a partner." It's got curves in all the right places, a wonderful blend of vibrational patterns, and a rechargeable, environmentally-kind, and waterproof build.
6. The Rabbit Isn't Just For Solo Play
Another favorite from Sophie Van Arden is the Rabbit vibrator. "Similar to the cock ring, this is great because it provides clitoral stimulation. It is also great because if my boyfriend finishes before I do, I can still get off... I think people assume these can only be used for a solo masturbation session, but that simply isn't true. It's a great toy everyone should have around the bedroom. It should be noted that in my experience, each toy is different depending on which company it's from."
The Louviva vibrator G-spot Rabbit massager is waterproof with nine different settings, and stimulates both the G-spot and clitoris with its carefully-shaped super smooth silicon material. It's also very highly rated because of the rechargeable-factor.
7. A Versatile Toy For Partners Of All Genders
Sammy Nickalls raves, "I have a great vibrator that has a wand on one end and a smooth, curved dildo on the other." It's called the Double Delight Wand Massager, and people absolutely love it because of the three speeds, seven patterns, quiet function, and USB charger.
She continues, "As a bisexual woman, it's great for when I'm with a woman who prefers clitoral stimulation OR vaginal stimulation, and it's great for when a man I'm with really wants to help me get there during sex. I tend to like toys that are versatile!"
8. Try These Ropes To Add Trust & Intimacy
According to Keith, "Sex can get boring, and it's fun to spice things up. Ropes can be a different sort of intimacy with the trust involved," he says, "And mixed with vibrators and things it makes for an interesting evening." These KissyBody soft ropes are long and made from nontoxic cotton for comfort and safety. They come in a pack of two (each is 32 feet long), and they're a number one best-seller because they're pliable, easy to use, and won't chafe like other materials.
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