Mother's Day is approaching with the speed and implacability of a bus driven by Sandra Bullock in a '90s thriller, and you know what that means: scrambling to find a non-floral present before Sunday and wondering why your relationship with your mom doesn't resembleLorelai and Rory Gimore's. Mother-daughter relationships have their ups and downs, and if you're currently stuck in a down, there are plenty of ways to get closer to your mom throughout the year — not just on the second Sunday in May.
Believe it or not, Mother's Day has a surprisingly complex history behind it. According to National Geographic, the holiday's early stages began in the mid-1800's, when Ann Reeves Jarvis arranged Mother's Day work clubs to tend to wounded Civil War soliders and improve infant mortality rates. Jarvis eventually died in 1905, and her daughter, Anna Jarvis, organized the first unofficial Mother's Day as a "thank offering" from sons and daughters to their mothers. One letter-writing campaign and several years later, the holiday was so widely celebrated that then-president Woodrow Wilson officially declared the second Sunday in every May to be Mother's Day.
However, the holiday took a direction Anna hadn't anticipated: commercialization. For the rest of her life, she repeatedly spoke out against the idea of giving gifts on the holiday, and she appeared to resent Mother's Day marketing by businesses and charities, which she felt exploited her idea.
So this Mother's Day, maybe take a page out of Anna Jarvis' book and focus on your relationship with your mother rather than the gift-giving. However, true change takes work — the kind you have to put in all year. Here are nine ways to stay close to your mom year-round.