A lot of us feel needy once in a while. Especially if we're down, don't feel well, or have a horrific hangover, feeling a little extra clingy every once in a while is totally normal. But if feeling needy in a relationship is your normal state, it can do do some serious damage. "Clinginess, or being overly needy, is one of the great relationship-killers nobody really pays attention to until it’s too late," dating expert Noah Van Hochman tells Bustle. "This could entail calling person numerous times a day for no other reason other than to ask where they are. Not being able to make simple decisions without first asking your partner is another sign of being too needy. People need to have some space, and by taking away that space you are creating a toxic environment that generally pushes people away."
But here's the complicated part — it's totally understandable to need your partner, at least to some degree. Your relationship is based off of being an important part of each other's lives. So what's the difference between the normal leaning on your partner and being too needy? When does it go too far? Well, if you want the answers, you need to be pretty brutal about your behavior, its motivations, and even how your partner responds to it. Here are seven questions to ask yourself to find out if you're being too needy: