No one who has ever felt or been violated in any sense deserves to be victim blamed. Unfortunately, it seems to happen often and especially with women. So, if you're someone who thinks an individual is ever "asking for it" in any capacity, then you need to educate yourself by reading Ariana Grande's tweets about victim blaming.
The 23-year-old singer took to Twitter Wednesday after sharing a story about being objectified on the social media outlet Tuesday evening. She claimed a male fan of her boyfriend, Mac Miller, approached them and said some disrespectful things about her. According to the "Side to Side" artist, the fan said to Miller, "Ariana is sexy as hell, man, I see you. I see you hitting that."
Grande then went onto explain how it made her feel and why it's not OK for anyone to say such things: "Things like [that] happen all the time and are the kinds of moments that contribute to women's sense of fear and inadequacy." She continued, "I am not a piece of meat that a man gets to utilize for his pleasure. I'm an adult human being in a relationship with a man who treats me with love and respect."
All of this unfortunately led to negative responses on Twitter, where people are blaming Grande for bringing on such comments due to how she dresses, embraces her sexuality, and expresses herself in a sexy manner through her music. As she tweeted, "Seeing a lot of 'but look how you portray yourself in videos and in your music! You're so sexual!' .... Please hold.. Next tweet... I repeat." She continued to defend herself and explain why blaming the victim rather than the person who is in the wrong is not OK on so many levels:
seeing a lot of "but look how you portray yourself in videos and in your music! you're so sexual!" .... please hold.. next tweet... i repeat— Ariana Grande (@ArianaGrande) December 28, 2016
expressing sexuality in art is not an invitation for disrespect !!! just like wearing a short skirt is not asking for assault.— Ariana Grande (@ArianaGrande) December 28, 2016
Women's choice. ♡ our bodies, our clothing, our music, our personalities..... sexy, flirty, fun.— Ariana Grande (@ArianaGrande) December 28, 2016
it is not. an open. invitation.
You are literally saying that if we look a certain way, we are yours to take. But we are not !!! It's our right to express ourselves. ♡— Ariana Grande (@ArianaGrande) December 28, 2016
Preach, Ariana. Preach. I really couldn't have said it better myself. Just because someone wears sexy clothes, shows off their body, and is comfortable with their sexuality doesn't give anyone the right to objectify that person or violate them in any way whatsoever.
As she shared in her story Tuesday evening,
Is Grande in the public eye? Yes, she is. Does she sometimes showcase herself in a sexual way? She most certainly does. However, that does not give anyone a free pass to disrespect her. Grande may be a celebrity, but she is also a human being.
What makes her message all the more powerful is how simply she puts it. The way she worded it and kept thing so short and to the point might finally hit home for those who didn't understand victim blaming before. Clearly, Grande doesn't just impact the world through her song lyrics, but also through her words outside of her music, as well.
If you didn't agree with Grande before, here's hoping her recent tweets will resonate with you. It's time for people to ban together, support women, quit treating them like objects, and stop it with the victim blaming.