Billy Porter Opened Up About Coming Out In The '80s & The Heartfelt Advice He'd Give His Younger Self
Actor, singer, Broadway performer, newly-minted fashion icon. He is all of those things and then some — but that doesn't mean it was always easy. During a recent interview with the Gay Times (per JustJared), Billy Porter opened up about coming out in the 1980s, and he also shared the heartfelt advice that he'd give his younger self.
Judging by the way he carries himself both on and off the red carpet, it's kind of hard to believe that Porter has ever lacked in confidence. He oozes authenticity, and does so in an incredibly grand way. However, the actor was bullied and forced to suppress all of that as a child, as he recently revealed to the Gay Times. But he was finally able to come into his own after he came out.
Porter recounted to the outlet,
"I was trying to get out of my circumstances and remove myself from the trauma and the toxic energy that was my childhood and my early teenage development. It was very traumatic and it was homophobic – it was violently homophobic and I knew then that if I was going to survive, I was going to have to extract myself from that. I found the arts and I found the theatre, a community that embraced me for who I am, and as I went deeper and deeper into that community, I discovered we were in the middle of a plague and had to fight."
Porter detailed his traumatic childhood and adolescence in an incredibly harrowing essay — that's very explicit and may be triggering for some — he wrote for Out magazine in October 2018. In it, he alleged that he was sexually abused by his stepfather for many years, starting at the age of 7.
Eventually, though, he was able to remove himself from that environment and strike out on his own — which is exactly what he'd tell his 16-year-old self to do now. "I would say that the first thing you must do, which I did, is extract yourself from the danger," Porter told Gay Times. "Extract yourself from the people who don’t know how to love you. Extract yourself from anything that’s toxic."
He then went on to explain how he'd want to, "Change the narrative of, 'I need the love of people, my mother, my father, my family to exist on the planet.'" That's not what we need to survive, Porter stressed, and neither is tolerance or acceptance.
Instead, the actor told the outlet,
"[W]e need respect for our humanity. We demand respect for our humanity and we will give respect for everyone else so that we can all move forward. Everybody’s humanity is valid, even if we don’t understand it or like it. That’s what I would tell my younger self and anybody today that you must do. You must break free. It’s the only way you will survive."
Porter survived, and he has since gone on to thrive. Big time. It's a good thing he ended up being able to be comfortable with himself, because there's truly no one else like him.