"Cat Person" Is A 'New Yorker' Short Story About A Bad Dating Experience & The Internet Is Relating Hard

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A short story titled "Cat Person", published in The New Yorker's Dec. 11, 2017 issue, went viral for revealing some harsh realities about gender dynamics in modern dating. If you haven't read Kristen Roupenian's story, you should because there's a good chance it may feel very real. (FYI, there are spoilers ahead).

The story focuses on Margot and Robert, who meet at the movie theater Margot works at. They start texting and eventually go on a date and have some disappointing sex. When Margot is interested in meeting up again, Robert quickly pulls away:

And if that dating game doesn't feel familiar, then maybe this unfortunate sex scene will:

I have definitely, definitely been there. But it's not just a particular scene that I resonated with, the whole thing captures something difficult to describe about gender roles in dating today. "I thought the story was great and very relatable to young women dating today," relationship therapist Aimee Hartstein, LCSW tells Bustle. "...The nasty twist at the end where he’s trying to reach out to her and get her to respond was the most shocking part. It’s a disturbing window into some men’s mixed up and hostile feelings towards women. He wants her and feels rejected but can’t sit with those bad feelings so ends up putting them on her by calling her a whore. It’s particularly disturbing right now given our current conversation about sexual harassment and abuse."

Though the story may feel shocking, for a lot of women, the mixed messages, the games, and the lack of respect feels all too familiar — a guy at a bar tells you you're pretty and if you say you're not interested, immediately calls you a "b*tch". It may happens on dating apps or after a few dates, so it's no surprise that so many women who date men wanted to share this story on social media.

In fact, women on the internet basically exploded with how close it hit to home. Here's what they had to say.

1. The Ballad Of Online Dating

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2. Putting Thoughts Into The Words

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3. This Freudian Slip

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4. "Uncomfortably Relatable"

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5. Oh, For A Life Before Online Dating

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7. This Behind-The-Scenes Insight

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8. We Need More Experiences Out There

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9. Take The Time

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10. General Sense Of Dread

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11. Men Need To Read It

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12. A Good Reminder

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13. How Do You Think That!?

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14. And This. This. This. This.

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While women across the internet found this story to be an accurate representation of modern dating, heterosexual men, unsurprisingly, disagreed. Though there were some dudes who seemed to realize that this piece deserved male attention and could be very enlightening, a lot of men just missed the point. In fact, there's a Twitter account dedicated to men's responses to the story, which is worth checking out if you want to laugh/cringe/feel all of the things.

Some people have been shocked simply because it's so rare for a piece of fiction to go viral, which is usually the domain of listicles and celebrity gossip. But the rampant popularity shows that it's filling a void — that we are lacking something. Stories about young women's experiences, especially in dating, are often not given the gravity or significance they deserve. But seeing a piece in The New Yorker centered around an uncomfortable experience that so many women not only relate to but talk about with their friends feels important.

Correction: This story has been updated from its original version.